Positivity Post https://positivitypost.com News about Positive Thinking, simplifying life, reducing stress, inspiration, personal growth, personal finance and happiness. Sun, 09 Aug 2020 22:00:50 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.4.2 How to Spot a Hater https://positivitypost.com/how-to-spot-a-hater/ https://positivitypost.com/how-to-spot-a-hater/#respond Mon, 10 Aug 2020 09:01:22 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=16136 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Haters have always been among us, but doesn’t it seem like there are a lot more of them lately? I don’t know if there are more haters, or just that for various reasons, they’re feeling emboldened enough to crawl out of the woodwork.

We probably all know a hater because they’re fairly easy to recognize. The “hater” is the person whose anger and negativity it a palpable toxin. They use hostile and critical comments and behavior to try and bring other people down or to humiliate them. The hater is the person who rarely has anything nice to say, but always has someone else to blame — it’s never their fault, its always someone else who is “an idiot” or “moron.”  The hater is quick to lay out how everyone else is doing it wrong or is corrupt/lying/cheating. Of course, they rarely have any factual evidence to back it up and they themselves don’t know how to fix things, so they just lash out at anyone and everyone.

Typically, haters single out people whom they perceive as being different — that difference could be anything from education level, to gender, sexual orientation, race or political ideology, etc.  What ever the perceived difference is, haters seem to feel threatened and thus, react by becoming hostile to varying degrees.

How to Identify a Hater

These are just a few signs that you’ve encountered a hater:

  • The Disagreeing Hater: this is probably the most common type of hater we see today. This is the person who reacts with anger when you have an opinion that is different from theirs. These folks are the ones who arrogantly believe that their opinions are absolute fact, and anyone who disagrees with them is usually on the receiving end of their ire — they’ll react by calling you an “idiot,” “moron” or some other neanderthal reaction. In essence, they can’t handle differing views and opinions and no matter how wrong they are, they just can’t admit it.
  • The Hater Who Hates Everything: they hate celebrities, they hate politicians, they hate their boss, they hate the neighbor — basically, they seem to have a problem with everyone and usually, over absurd notions. This is kind of the extreme hater, because their first reaction when discussing something or someone, is to let you know off the bat that they “hate” him/her/it/them.
  • The Jealous Hater: They’re so consumed with jealousy that they tear down anyone who has accomplished something in life. Unable to hear praise heaped upon someone, they lash out and try to tell you why you too should hate ________. This type of hate is also very common today, as we see the newly emboldened haters bashing people for no good reason…an indicator that they’re actually jealous.

There are many other types and characteristics of haters. For me personally, I find that haters are just unhappy, mean-spirited people. I think they are lacking something or perhaps, have suffered some kind of emotional trauma that led them down the path of negativity. We’re seeing haters more these days because they have more of a platform to espouse their anger via social media. I have sympathy for haters, because I think their negativity and bullying is a sign that something deep within it them is askew. Sadly, unless these angry, hateful people get help, it tends to fester and consume their persona to such a degree, that they eventually find themselves isolated and alone.

There are some things to help protect ourselves from haters and here are just a few suggestions:

  • Stay calm and respectful. It might seem odd to be respectful, but staying calm and polite shows that you have control over your emotions and won’t let yourself be dragged in. Why get into it with a hater, when odds are great you won’t change them?
  • Consider the source. Comments from a hater aren’t really about you, but is more of a reflection of themselves. People who have healthy self-esteem and positivity, don’t need to put others down. When one does that, they’re not just exposing themselves as haters, they’re revealing their own negativity.
  • Block them or walk away. If someone is making hateful comments online, block them. If its in real life, extricate yourself and simply walk away.
  • Stick with people who uplift. In my humble opinion, one of the best ways to shield ourselves from haters, is to be around good friends and people who are positive and uplifting. We can’t always avoid haters, but we certainly can make sure we have enough good, descent people in our life to nullify the hater’s negativity.
  • Avoid politics. A lot of haters are letting their true nature show during this time of heightened political divide. They seem to thrive on all things political and usually try to bring politics into every conversation. You may want to give second thought to having any kind of political discussion with these angry people.

There are many ways to deal with haters and I do think that if one is unsure, seeking the guidance of a qualified professional is always best. Its sad that there are so many hate-filled people in this world and I can’t fathom why there are, but its our reality. I think haters are angry and perhaps very sad people and ultimately, they probably need professional help. But, for me personally, avoidance is the best way to deal with them — I simply don’t allow them to drag me into their negativity and I make sure that their aura doesn’t dim my own.

Read: How to Deal with “Haters” for more information.

“I don’t worry about the haters… They are just angry because the truth I speak contradicts the lie they live.” – Steve Maraboli

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A Line Has Been Drawn in the Sand. Choose Your Side. https://positivitypost.com/a-line-has-been-drawn-in-the-sand-choose-your-side/ https://positivitypost.com/a-line-has-been-drawn-in-the-sand-choose-your-side/#respond Mon, 03 Aug 2020 09:01:24 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=16098 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/I’ve been doing a great deal of deep thinking about all that’s happening in the world right now. For a while, I avoided this intense reflection, because I was afraid of what I might discover — not really about myself, but about the world itself.

A few experiences and observations prompted me to sit down and in a place of peace and quiet, really contemplate what’s been happening. Of course, any time we engage in deep reflection, it means opening not just our minds, but also our hearts — its only then can we really glean what is truly happening. I mentioned that some observations and experiences prompted this and I want to share those with you.

– I started seeing a lot of posts on social media in which people shared prayers. Most of the prayers were for the pandemic to go away, for an end to violence, for peace in the nation, the world, etc. After reading one such post from a friend, I had a distinct epiphany. This friend, who is a nice person, was praying for God to heal the world, to stop the hate, the division and the violence. And while I thought to myself how wonderful and very much needed these prayers are, I also though “but she is part of the problem.” Admittedly, I felt guilty that I would feel that way about a friend. But after some reflection, I realized that even though this was an uncomfortable thought, it was true. This friend, who happens to be a devout Catholic, is also a staunch Republican — that just happens to be true and is in no way a reflection, per se, on the Republican party. So while the prayers she shares on Facebook are nice, does she actually live by those words? Many of her posts are quite divisive. A good deal of what she posts could be considered a bit harsh. So how does someone who prays for healing and an end to divisiveness and violence, justify behaving in a manner contrary to what she asks God to do for us?

How can we ask God to just make it all better without making the changes we seek within ourselves first? Do we think we can simply pray for peace and healing and that’s the end of it? Are we not supposed to be the very change we seek?

“If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.” – 1 John 4:20

“You hypocrites! Well did Isaiah prophesy of you, when he said: “‘This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.” – Matthew 15:7-9

While I care deeply for this friend, I gave serious thought to reaching out to her to talk about this, but, ultimately, I have not done so yet. We are seeing this all across the world — people claiming they want peace, love and happiness, but not willing to help bring that about. They post one nice thing, like a prayer, but then revert right back to being part of the problem they wish to heal. We simply cannot continue on this way.

– Another observation that I know is shared by millions of people, is that we have become so incredibly angry and  absolutely obsessed with fighting — we fight about politics, sports, race, religion, gender equality…the list seems endless. When did we become so horrifically petty and bitter? I think the worst of it is the war of wills over politics. Like the friend I mentioned above, it seems that people are combatively choosing sides as if it were a winner-take-all situation. People are quite literally losing their minds over politics and I fear, their very souls. Every post, tweet and conversation, no matter how unrelated to politics, is being made political. Its absolutely insane.

– Everyone is stressed with worry and for good reason. We not only have a pandemic, but we’re experiencing social unrest due to racial inequality, we’re having economic troubles on a global scale, people are refusing to wear masks and having public meltdowns, we have natural disasters, political turmoil…I don’t need to go on, because you all know. I pondered all of this and I felt overwhelmed. I thought “the world is just a complete chaotic mess!”

The Line in the Sand

Are we being tested? Is this all just part of life on this rock we call earth, or is that we are making our own problems? Will it all get better soon? Questions I, like everyone else, continue to ask. But something deep inside of me tells me that in a way, this is a test. That there has been a line drawn in the sand and our thoughts, words and deeds determine which side we’re on.

“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15

Here, Joshua is drawing a line in the sand and committing that he will serve God and affirming his faith and trust in God. All those around him praised God and said they too would serve the one and only true God. But Joshua knows that it can’t just be words — that they have to not just say it, but truly mean it. Joshua tells them that they must throw away their “foreign gods” (false idols). Did they? Or, did they simply say that they would, but then reverted back to their old ways?

“So put away all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander.” – 1 Pete4 2:1

My friend is a good person, of that I’m sure. But, I worry that we are seeing people begging for help from God, but not willing to make any changes — not willing to give up their worldly obsessions and be the change they beseech the Lord to make. Is it right to pray for peace and harmony and then turn around and cause strife, especially over political ideology? Aren’t many among us making politicians into false gods?

I believe the line is there. I feel it very strongly that we are being tested. We can either be on the side of the line that is good and seeks to bring peace and harmony, or the side that is “of this world” — the side that perpetuates anger, hatred, greed and violence. Ultimately, the choice is ours, whether we realize that or not.

“If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you” John 15:19

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” 1 John 2:15

If we want peace, we have to help bring peace. If we want harmony, we have to create it. If we desire more love in this world, we actually have to be willing to give love. I don’t believe we can just wish for it either — I believe we must crave it in our prayers, words and actions.

“His speech was smooth as butter, yet war was in his heart; his words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords.” -Psalm 55:21

“Like the glaze covering an earthen vessel are fervent lips with an evil heart. Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart; when he speaks graciously, believe him not, for there are seven abominations in his heart; though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly.” – Proverbs 26:23-26

In 2 Corinthians 13:5, the Bible tells us to “examine yourselves to see if you are in the faith.” It is telling us that forgiveness comes from repentance. It comes for acknowledging our wrongs and striving to change our ways — our thoughts, words and deeds. God sees what is in our heart and we can never hide our true selves from Him. I think we would all do well to remember that.

“And he said to them, “You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is exalted among men is an abomination in the sight of God.” Luke 16:15

“And he said to them, “You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is exalted among men is an abomination in the sight of God.” – 1 John 2:15-17

I appreciate my friend’s desire to use prayer to bring about positive change, but I believe deeply that we must embody the change we seek.

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Social Media is Pulling Us Apart One Post at a Time https://positivitypost.com/social-media-is-pulling-us-apart-one-post-at-a-time/ Mon, 27 Jul 2020 09:01:04 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=16071 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Be honest. How many people have you unfriended in the last year or so? How many may have unfriended or unfollowed you?  Do you care? Social media, hailed as the great connector, has proven to be the great divider.

The reason for the divide is as expected: politics. Sadly, politics seems to be more important to people than friendships and even familial ties. Differing political views are breaking relationships and even fracturing family bonds. Recent surveys show that a substantial percentage of social media users can’t tolerate the opinions or views of their friends and family members.

A survey conducted for the firm Comparitech found that approximately 52% of social media users dropped friends over politics and about 44% overall unfriended someone who had opposing opinions to their own.

Politics is Destroying Our Harmony

Politics has always created divides and that is just a fact. However, experts agree that it has never been this bad. People, and especially Americans, are becoming political news junkies. There are some people who cannot help but talk politics — we all know that person who manages to turn every conversation into one about politics. It’s extremely disturbing, not to mention very unhealthy — physically, mentally and spiritually.

The unending “breaking news” cycle of our 24×7 news media has of course made matters worse. But, social media has turned a bad situation into an absolutely dire one. Politics is everywhere we look and as we scan our news feed on Facebook or Twitter, all we see is politics — we’re being absolutely deluged with it and it has to stop.

Most Want it to Stop

A recent survey conducted by CivilScience shows that 71% of respondents feel that social media companies like Twitter and Facebook, should always fact-check political ads. Not surprisingly, the study also revealed that 73% of adults in the U.S. would prefer that social media networks ban all political ads. Unfortunately, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg doesn’t seem to care, saying:

“I don’t think that Facebook or internet platforms in general should be arbiters of truth. “Political speech is one of the most sensitive parts in a democracy, and people should be able to see what politicians say.”

Mark Zuckerberg it seems, could not care less. The very platform he has boasted about as being the great connector, is doing the opposite.

“Social media is a contributing factor to the political divide in our country. It is hard to know, however, if social media is helping to widen the rift or make salient how deep and broad the divide already is. With social media, individuals with particular political persuasions seem to ‘follow’ or ‘friend’ individuals on social media who share similar viewpoints. The difference, however, is that many social media platforms do not appear to filter content based on the accuracy of the information. Therefore, individuals, groups and even foreign governments can propagate ideas and information; even when such ideas have little to no basis in reality. It seems to me that the goal of those disseminating political information on social media and through some news outlets has devolved into how much they can make the other side seem inconsistent, disingenuous, or absurd, rather than to provide accurate details about events.”Dr. Nathaniel Ivers, Department Chairman and Associate Professor, Department of Counseling at Wake Forest University.

Lies and Deception

So what is it? We know that social media is rife with lies and bad information. We know that politicians are very often only out for themselves. We know that foreign governments are flooding social media with bad information with the sole purpose of dividing us and causing chaos. So why do we fall for it? Why on earth do we head back on line every day, only to find that what’s on Facebook or Twitter, ruins our day? It’s almost like self-inflicted injury to our well-being. And each day, someone unfriends someone else, or gets into a heated debate over what…politics? Is it really worth it?

The answer is a firm and undeniable no. It’s not worth it. Far from it.

As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him. – Titus 3:10

If anyone teaches a different doctrine and does not agree with the sound words of our Lord Jesus Christ and the teaching that accords with godliness, he is puffed up with conceit and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy craving for controversy and for quarrels about words, which produce envy, dissension, slander, evil suspicions, and constant friction among people who are depraved in mind and deprived of the truth, imagining that godliness is a means of gain. – 1 Timothy 6:3-5

My friends, we are in desperate need of a true spiritual awakening. Politics is very divisive and we have to learn to curb our thirst for all things political. Remember, politicians create this divide and they are only too happy to have minions out there doing their bidding. They benefit, we do not. Their job, is to work together. We elect them to represent us and to find consensus with their counter-parts…it’s not our job, its theirs!

What Should Christians Do?

Christians should be mindful of spending too much time watching news or surfing social media. But, they should especially be aware that causing or succumbing to political strife is completely contrary to our faith. Christians are to be kind and understanding. We are to be healers and friends to the friendless — we are not meant to be waging a war of words over politics with our brothers and sisters and that is particularly the case with “social” media.

If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless. – James 1:26

A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression. – Proverbs 29:22

It appears that social media companies aren’t going to do much to fix the problem, so the responsibility seems to rest with social media users. Here are some tips we can use as a guide when it comes to judging our usage of social media:

  • Be aware. It behooves us to question anything we read on social media and do our own fact checking — don’t assume because a friend posted it that it’s accurate. Don’t assume that because it made its way onto the feed it must be true.
  • Be intelligent and mindful consumers of the information we share and read on social media. If we don’t know the validity of a news story or source, we shouldn’t share it before we first verify it.
  • Be willing to listen to other’s opinions without being judgmental. Just because a friend has a view that may be polar opposite to our own, doesn’t mean we have to engage them in battle — either ignore it, or, discuss is calmly.
  • Consider the medium. No one should be getting their news from social media. We all know its rife with falsehoods, so why on earth would we use it as our main source for news?
  • Take a break. Many psychology and sociology experts agree that taking a break from social media is a good idea, even if only for a month.

Ideally, Facebook and Twitter should ban all political ads and make fact checking fake and misleading news their top priority. However, given their failure to do so, we may feel that while we like staying connected with friends, the strife and turmoil is too much. I think perhaps there is a happy medium that can give us a balance.

From the Christian perspective, we know that causers of strife and disharmony are all around us. It’s sad to think that people would intentionally lie and seek to create trouble, but alas, that is life. Being aware of it helps, as does being prepared to handle it. We can either keep unfriending and unfollowing, or we can be part of the solution: let social media executives know you are tired of all the politics, tell friends you don’t wish to discuss politics and, distance yourself from the problem by spending time in a much more productive way.

For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions. – 2 Timothy 4:3

I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment. – 1 Corinthians 1:10

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Our Mindset Shapes Our Reality https://positivitypost.com/our-mindset-shapes-our-reality/ Mon, 20 Jul 2020 09:01:11 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=16043 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Success or failure in life is a direct result of our own mindset — how we use our mind power to accomplish our goals. Successful entrepreneurs, entertainers and the most accomplished individuals, understand the vital importance of having the right frame of mind.

As Henry Ford once said: “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” Many people fail before they’ve even begun because they don’t invest the time to mentally prepare themselves. They let insecurities and past failures stand in their way and that prevents them from starting off on the right foot.

How Do They Do It?

Have you ever read a story about a highly accomplished person and think “how did they do it?” We often wrongly assume that they had help or that they had some advantage that we don’t. Sure, that is sometimes the case, but having an advantage doesn’t guarantee continued success. Real, long-lasting success comes from dedication and hard work — which of course, requires the right mindset.

Nurturing the faith and belief  that we can succeed if we just put our mind to it, is one of the greatest challenges standing in our way. It takes commitment and effort to convince ourselves that we are capable of succeeding and that means accepting that we can’t just repeat a positive affirmation or tell ourselves a few times “I can do this” — it means we have to affirm that belief every day, until it becomes our reality.

How Will I Know?

When will you arrive at that point in life in which positive thinking will be guiding you forward? The simple answer is, you’ll just know. There is a vibrant rush or feeling throughout your body that lets you know that you believe in yourself — a feeling of confidence, hope, inspiration and positivity. Its at that time that we can’t give up though. Positive thinking is not some kind of magic and as you know, our thoughts create our reality because they influence our intention — positive thinking brings about a positive reality, while negative thinking creates the opposite effect.

“Be positive. Your mind is more powerful than you think. What is down in the well comes up in the bucket. Fill yourself with positive things.” – Tony Dungy

What You Can Do

Being a positive thinker first requires the sincere desire to do so. One must really want to make beneficial changes in their life and…mind. We don’t just say “okay, I’m going to start thinking more positively” and then it just happens. Positive thinking isn’t fantasy or putting on rose colored glasses. Real positive thinking means determining to be resilient, focused, open-minded, grateful, kind…the list goes on. These suggestions on how to be a positive person are a good starting point on your journey:

  • Focus on Your Thoughts

To be a positive thinker and thus, a more positive person, one must learn how to confront and analyze their thoughts. Being introspective doesn’t come easy to everyone, but its necessary to understand how our mind’s work. When in a challenging situation, how do you react? What goes through your mind? Do you engage in negative self-talk? Do you lash out at yourself or others?

These types of internal or external thoughts and reactions are common types of negative thinking. When you analyze them, you realize that you’re focusing on the undesirable aspects of a situation and this habit causes stress, which in turn creates a feeling of nervousness, which in turn leads to rumination, which means…your mind quickly becomes overwhelmed withe the negative.

A good example can usually be drawn from our job, since career stress can typically lead to negative thinking. Say you’ve had a busy day at work in which you felt frazzled, yet still accomplished what you needed to. When you get home, you realize you forgot to do something — return an important call, send out an email, etc. — despite the fact you got much accomplished, you let that one “thing” nag at you, causing you to worry that you may be in trouble the next day. All that good and all those accomplishments, get flushed away, as you ruminate on the past and future.

Positive thinkers on the other hand, would take the time to be mindful. They would examine their thoughts in a rational manner and accept that no one is perfect and no one can do it all. Yes, a “mistake” was made, but overall, they do a good job, they’re honest and hard-working and the boss is a descent person…they will understand. In effect, you’re creating the reality and outcome. Focus on the accomplishments, be prepared to admit the mistake, go into work the next day and calmly, professionally, explain what you forgot to do and odds are, the boss will be okay with it.

Its important that we work to control our thinking. Being mindful, or, in the moment, means taking control of our thoughts and reactions and focusing on the good, with the commitment to addressing the bad — as in the example above, a focused positive thinker might conclude they need to make a “to-do” list to help ensure they don’t forget to do something important.

  • Be Realistic

If anyone tells you that simply repeating a positive affirmation like “I’m good enough!” is all you need to do, please don’t listen. Sure, positive affirmations are valuable, but they only work if you take action. Yes, you can do it. Yes, you are good enough. Yes, thinking positively does work. But it takes time and thoughts need to lead to action. Condition your mind to be more aware and embrace positive things — people, thoughts, places, etc. A positive affirmation is a great morale booster and does help to keep you focused, so use them as a pick-me-up, rather than the sole path to a positive life. Be realistic and don’t expect miracles overnight. Stay focused and committed to your objectives and over time, the transformation will take root.

“A positive mind finds opportunity in everything. A negative mind finds fault in everything.” – Unknown

  • Change Your Perspective

Be the change you want to see. Let go of hatred or jealousy. Practice gratitude. Be patient and kind. Give love. Accept love. These are things we want, so why do we always seem to be chasing them, when the truth is, they’re not hard to find. All we have to do is…just do it. Just let go of the toxic — take that leap of faith and just stop the negativity.

“The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.” ― Norman Vincent Peale

I think what happens is at some point, we get so tired of negativity. We become weary and feel beaten down. Often, people give into it: “there’s so much hostility and negativity in the world, so why bother?”  That is the mindset we have to find and destroy. The reason why we can’t give up, is because we can never give in. So the best thing to do is to change our perspective: choose love, not hate. Choose compassion, not greed. Choose kindness, not cruelty.

“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.” – Norman Vincent Peale

I personally believe that the “just do it” mindset is best when it comes to changing from the negative to the positive. One just has to want it bad enough to take that first step. Becoming a more positive person is a personal journey and what works for some, may not work for you. Find the support and resources that appeal most to you and and begin the journey…the rewards are amazing!

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Know Thyself https://positivitypost.com/know-thyself/ Mon, 13 Jul 2020 09:01:01 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=16013 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/One of my friends called me the other day and it was clear right off the bat he was annoyed. The source of his agitation is one that has become all too common — social media. And like many, he was left feeling stressed by the situation.

My friend made what was a relatively innocent comment on Facebook, but that one innocuous comment, turned into a firestorm.

I’ll give you some context about his comment: it was a comment made on a friend’s post and it related to President Trump. My friend, who we can call “Jim” for the purposes of this post, is someone I’ve known well for many years. Jim is not someone who lashes out or behaves aggressively and he’s known for his sense of calm and fairness — he is more a peacemaker than anything else. His comment was innocent enough, but he did make it clear that he does not feel that Donald Trump is a good person — he sees him as someone who intentionally causes divide, anger and anxiety and his comment basically said so, but in a tactful manner. Seeing his comment, people began weighing in and he took a great deal of abuse and hostility from diehard Trump supporters.

Jim said he tried to address each person who was attacking him in as calm and civil a manner as possible. Unfortunately, it did little to stop the onslaught. This however, is not what upset him. What upset him, was that a mutual friend of ours private messaged him with what he said was a vicious unprovoked attack. This friend let lose with insults, accusations and cruel words that came out of left field. She warned him that she thought Donald Trump was the best president in history and that she would choose him over their friendship. They went back and forth and he tried to calm her down and assure her that it was just his opinion and that shouldn’t ruin their friendship. Unfortunately, her tirade exposed a very ugly side of her personality and the damage was done — she basically ended their friendship via Facebook messenger. How sad and very unnecessary.

Polarizing Ourselves into Isolation

Why our friend attacked Jim is something we’ve tried to figure out. She doesn’t know Donald Trump and most likely will never meet him. Why then would she choose politics over long-term friendship? We may never know why, since I have opted to distance myself from her as well — the things she wrote were terrible and as I said earlier, exposed a very ugly side of her personality we didn’t know existed.

We’ve all experienced what my friend endured and it’s not pleasant. We say or post a seemingly innocent comment, merely expressing our views when out of the blue, we’re attacked for it. Its unsettling, alarming and a very dangerous sign of our times. One result is increasing isolation, as people find relationships destroyed due to intransigent political ideology — relationships that have lasted for years, are suddenly destroyed, all over politics.

What We Can Learn

America and indeed other nations, have become very polarized. Politics has turned toxic and armies of loyal party ideologues have taken control. The problem is that for many Americans, their political party has become more of a battalion of like-minded soldiers — its like a team mentality in which one must defeat the other side to have…victory?  I don’t know, but that really seems to be what is happening.

Emanuel Maidenberg, a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA sums it up like this: “People start seeing themselves or their political views as the main representation of their values, and what is right and wrong.”

People are starting to see their identity as something derived from their political party. They’re seeing the world as an “us vs. them” place, as opposed to one in which differing views are not a threat, but are a sign of healthy debate and action. The scorched earth mentality that has taken hold is, in my opinion, a sign that some people are actually unsure of who they really are in this world. No longer having their own thoughts, values and identity, they latch onto a political ideology and then sadly, allow that to consumer their very persona.

The Christian Perspective

Jim and I are both Christians and this factored into our chat about what had happened. For us, we don’t see people as enemies just because they believe differently than we do. There have always been differences between people — differences in political views, religious beliefs, race, gender, sexual orientation, nationality. Those differences are not a threat and should not be perceived as such.

“It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.” ― Maya Angelou

I also mentioned earlier that I too have cooled my relationship with our mutual friend, but neither of us has ended the friendship…she has. I don’t reject her, I simply can’t understand where her hatred and bigotry came from, since she has never before expressed the views she did with Jim. As such, I have to re-evaluate the kind of relationship I can have with her.  The Bible shows us that friendships have a powerful effect on us:  In 1 Corinthians 15:33 it says,“Evil company corrupts good habits.”  This is what shaped both of our reactions to her vitriol and toxic views.

If you have a friend who has let their political beliefs take full control of their life and personality and this has, in your view, changed them for the worse, there are some things you can do, including:

  • If you can, extricate yourself from the conversation by saying something like, “I don’t think we’re going to agree on this, but I’d prefer not to fight about it, so can we change the subject?”
  • If you believe their facts to be wrong, odds are that no matter what counter facts you share, they’re not going to alter their view, so you could try saying “I can see that you believe that, given the sources of your information, but my sources, which I trust, tell a different story. I think we’re going to have to agree to disagree.” In my experience, the next best thing to do is to change the subject or leave the conversation.
  • Stay positive. When both parties in a “debate” become negative, the situation quickly sours. Maintain a positive demeanor, avoiding insults and use one of the exit strategies above.

“Those with sound thoughts you will keep in peace, in peace because they trust in you.” ― Isaiah 26:3

Ultimately, how you handle it is your personal choice. As a Christian, I do always try to maintain the peace because I know that just because they believe something, it doesn’t mean what I believe is wrong and vice versa. If we are confident in our views and opinions, then really, why let their contrary beliefs shake us? After all, we can always do more research to verify our or their information, so what’s the point in arguing?

“Sometimes the Lord rides out the storm with us and other times He calms the restless sea around us. Most of all, He calms the storm inside us in our deepest inner soul.” ― Lloyd John Ogilvie

Know Thy Self

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” ― Romans 12:2

When a person’s views are ones centered on hatred or bigotry, it may be time to re-evaluate that friendship. That is the case my friend Jim and I are dealing with now. Christians are taught to be kind and loving, but we’re not expected to associate with people who have evil in their heart: “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.” ― Proverbs 22:24-25

The times we live in have become difficult to navigate. The divisions are growing so strong, it worries me greatly. Personally, I don’t understand it. Differing political views have always existed and those varying opinions are actually a sign of good health in our form of government. Today however, moderates on both sides of the political spectrum are being silenced, while the extremists are being encouraged. Perhaps the best way to navigate this new dynamic is to realize that there is much more to life than politics and we can’t allow a political party to shape our belief system — this is especially true for Christians. So, we should choose our friends and our “battles” wisely and look to peace, civility and harmony as the better way to lead our life.

“Peace I leave with you. My peace I give you. I give to you not as the world gives. Don’t be troubled or afraid.” ― John 14:27

“Prayer is not asking for what you think you want, but asking to be changed in ways you can’t imagine.” ― Kathleen Norris

“Jesus is the greatest teacher of happiness the world ever knew. Take Him into your heart, into your mind, and you will sing a song of joy always.” ― Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

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Dear Diary…Help! https://positivitypost.com/dear-diary-help/ https://positivitypost.com/dear-diary-help/#comments Mon, 06 Jul 2020 09:01:03 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15992 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345So this great post is making its way around Facebook and lots of folks are reading it, but none of us know who actually wrote it. Entitled “Dear Diary,” the post really makes you think — and it also makes you kind of feel better, knowing you’re not alone. See for yourself…

Dear Diary 2020 Edition,

In January, Australia caught on fire. I don’t even know if that fire was put out, because we straight up almost went to war with Iran. We might actually still be almost at war with them. I don’t know, because Jen Aniston and Brad Pitt spoke to one another at an awards show and everyone flipped the f— out, but then there was thing happening in China, then Prince Harry and Megan peaced out of the Royal family, and there was the whole impeachment trial, and then corona virus showed up in the US “officially,” but then Kobe died and UK peaced out of the European Union.

In February, Iowa crapped itself with the caucus results and the president was acquitted and the Speaker of the House took ten years to rip up a speech, but then WHO decided to give this virus a name COVID-19, which confused some really important people in charge of, like, our lives, into thinking there were 18 other versions before it, but then Harvey Weinstein was found guilty, and Americans started asking if Corona beer was safe to drink, and everyone on Facebook became a doctor who just knew the flu like killed way more people than COVID 1 through 18.

In March, s*it hit the fan. Warren dropped out of the presidential race and Sanders was like Bernie or bust, but then Italy shut its whole ass down, and then COVID Not 1 through 18 officially become what everyone already realized, a pandemic and then a nationwide state of emergency was declared in US, but it didn’t really change anything, so everyone was confused or thought it was still just a flu, but then COVID Not 18 was like ya’ll not taking me seriously? I’m gonna infect the one celebrity everyone loves and totally infected Tom Hanks, but then the DOW took a s*it on itself, and most of us still don’t understand why the stock market is so important or even a thing (I still don’t), but then we were all introduced to Tiger King. (Carol totally killed her husband), and Netflix was like you’re welcome, and we all realized there was no way we were washing our hands enough in the first place because all of our hands are now dry and gross.

In April, Bernie finally busted himself out of the presidential race, but then NYC became the set of The Walking Dead and we learned that no one has face masks, ventilators, or toilet paper, or THE FREAKING SWIFFER WET JET LIQUID, but then Kim Jong-Un died, but then he came back to life… or did he? Who knows, because then the Pentagon released videos of UFOs and nobody cared, and we were like man, it’s only April….

In May, the biblical end times kicked off historical locust swarms and then we learned of murder hornets and realized that 2020 was the start of the Hunger Games but people forgot to let us know, but then people legit protested lockdown measures with AR-15s, and then sports events were cancelled everywhere. But then people all over America finally reached a breaking point with race issues and violence. There were protests in every city, but then people forgot about the pandemic called COVID Not One Through 18. Media struggled with how to focus on two important things at once, but then people in general struggle to focus on more than one important thing, and a dead whale was found in the middle of the Amazon rain forest after monkeys stole COVID 1 Through 19 from a lab and ran off with them, and either in May or April (no one is keeping track of time now) that a giant asteroid narrowly missed Earth.

In June, science and common sense just got thrown straight out the window and somehow wearing masks became a political thing, but then a whole lot of people realized the south was actually the most unpatriotic thing ever and actually lost the civil war, and there are a large amount of people who feel that statues they don’t even know the name of are needed for … history reasons….. but then everyone sort of remembered there was a pandemic, but then decided that not wearing a mask was somehow a God given right (still haven’t found that part in the bible or even in the constitution), but then scientists announced they found a mysterious undiscovered mass at the center of the earth, and everyone was like DON’T YOU DARE TOUCH IT, but then everyone took a pause to realize that people actually believed Gone With The Wind was like non-fiction, but then it was also announced that there is a strange radio single coming from somewhere in the universe that repeats itself every so many days, and everyone was like DON’T YOU DARE ATTEMPT TO COMMUNICATE WITH IT, but then America reopened from the shut down that actually wasn’t even a shut down, and so far, things have gone spectacularly not that great, but everyone is on Facebook arguing that masks kill because no one knows how breathing works, but then Florida was like hold my beer and let me show you how we’re number one in all things, including new Not Corona Beer Corona Virus. Trump decides now is a good time to ask the Supreme Court to shut down Obama Care because what better time to do so than in the middle of a pandemic, but then we learned there was a massive dust cloud coming straight at us from the Sahara Desert, which is totally normal, but this is 2020, so the ghost mummy thing is most likely in that dust cloud, but then I learned of meth-gators, and I’m like that is so not on my f-ing 2020 Bingo card, but then we learned that the Congo’s worse ever Ebola outbreak is over, and we were all like, there was an Ebola outbreak that was the worse ever?

In July…. Aliens? Zeus? Asteroids? Artificial Intelligence becomes self aware?

Thanks to whoever started this for the copy and paste.

I have no idea who wrote this; and damn it, I want to know. Also, why didn’t I know about the whale in the Amazon?

The author of this “diary” entry really has a way with words! I’ll refer to the author as “she,” even though no one seems to know if it was a man or woman who authored it. Does it even matter? No, because she nailed it. This year has been a complete cosmic kick in our backside. Humanity has been wrung through the wringer on what seems like an endless repeat cycle. To millions of people around the world, our times seem surreal — can this all really be happening? When will this nightmare end? These are the questions we’re all asking. Its great to ask the questions, but does anyone have the answers?

Yes and No

Lots of folks think they have the answer and just as many say they don’t. Somewhere in the middle, is the truth. In my opinion, the reality is, lots of folks just don’t like the answer, so they ignore it and continue to stress and search for something they already know…people need to just stop. Stop hating. Stop yelling. Stop arguing. Stop stirring the pot. People – and that means all of us – simply need to just let go of the toxic and deadly emotions: anger, hatred, envy, fear, condemnation and low self-esteem, to name the biggies. These are the feelings and thoughts that threaten our mental, physical and spiritual well-being. They are destructive negative forces that chip away at happiness and contentment — they also happen to be the very root cause of wars, crime, addiction and every other bad event plaguing our world.

Getting Rid of These Deadly Emotions

There are many effective methods to rid oursleves of these negative emotions and while some are based upon psychological factors, others are based on faith. In my opinion, the melding of psychology with faith is sometimes the better route to take.

Choice

We humans tend to forget that everything we do is a choice. When we react in anger, we are choosing to do so. If we hate our brothers and sisters because of their race, religion of sexual orientation, we are choosing to do so. When we let politicians manipulate us by turning us against one another, we’re choosing to let them do that.

How to Make the Right Choice

The right choice…well, that sure is a tough one. What is the right choice? That’s a question they’ve been asking since time began on this rock. The right choice is ultimately, the good choice — the one that is centered on love, peace, understanding, fairness, compassion. The right choice, is always the one that helps, uplifts, strengthens and improves. To get there, its necessary that we be mindful of our thinking and our reactions and then, mindful of how to make the right choice in that thinking and action.

“Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing.”       ― Jon Kabat-Zinn

“The way to happiness: keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Fill your life with love. Scatter sunshine. Forget self, think of others. Do as you would be done by. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.”  ― Norman Vincent Peale

I think a good way to describe it is as “healthy thinking.” If we approach life and people with a mindset of caring, gratitude and compassion, we are putting out positive vibes. We’re consciously shedding the bad and striving to be good people who do unto others as we would like done unto us. That place of love and compassion is the strongest base we can stand upon — its the base that lasts the longest. We may not be able to control events, but we can shape them. The opportunity is before us right now: We can choose to be kind. We can choose to be helpful. We can choose to be calm, sensible and fair-minded. Right now, each and every one of us has the choice to either make matters worse, or make them better…which do you choose?

“What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” ― James 2:14-17

“Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” ― Galatians 5:19-26

“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.” ― Proverbs 10:12

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It’s Wrong to Use God to Justify Our Bad Behavior https://positivitypost.com/its-wrong-to-use-god-to-justify-our-bad-behavior/ Mon, 29 Jun 2020 09:01:16 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15961 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/These citizens recently spoke at a Palm Beach county Commission meeting. The catalyst for the meeting is the alarming and significant increase in Covid-19 infections. Below the video are the salient excerpts from the clip, along with some commentary.

The video clip is courtesy of Now This via Facebook. Make sure you have your volume up:

I don’t know about you, but I find the rationale of these citizens to be very disturbing and especially the ones that invoke God. Let’s take a look at some of their comments…

“And they want to throw God’s wonderful breathing system out the door. You’re all turning your backs on it.”

So using this logic, I imagine that this person would find wearing Scuba gear to go below water to be an affront to God? Does this person also believe that wearing glasses is violating God’s will?

“In the beginning, God formed man out of the earth and breathed His breath in him and he became a living soul. Where do you derive the authority to regulate human breathing? What you say is the political dogma that they’re throwing down our throats on every commercial, in every store and its disgusting!”

Derive the right to regulate human breathing? Wearing a mask isn’t regulating breathing, its meant to control a highly contagious and dangerous pandemic.

“Every single one of you that are obeying the devil’s laws are going to be arrested. And you, Doctor, are going to be arrested for crimes against humanity! We will get together and do a citizen’s arrest on every single human being that goes against the freedom of choice. Okay? You cannot mandate — you literally cannot mandate somebody to wear a mask, knowing that that mask is killing people. It literally is killing people.” Every single one of you, have a smirk behind that little mask, but every single one of you are going to get punished by God. You cannot — you cannot escape God. You cannot escape God. Imma say that again…you cannot escape God! Not even with the mask or 6 feet. Okay? 6 feet, like I said before, is military protocol. You’re trying to get the people to train them, so when the camera’s, the 5G comes out… what? They’re gonna — they’re gonna scan everybody?  We gotta get scanned, we gotta get temperatured? The kids have to go to school with masks? Are you insane!? Are you crazy? I think all of you should be in a psych ward right the heck now.”

This person really worries me, because not only does a deep paranoia run through her words, but she seems to believe she is the word of God in the flesh — that she and she alone hears and understands God’s will. As for crimes against humanity, any clear thinker would argue that the crime against humanity, is putting other people’s lives at risk, simply because you just don’t feel like wearing a mask.

“Let me ask y’all, do you believe in God? Do you believe you can override God’s divine plan for our lives? You’re removing our freedoms and stomping on our constitutional rights by these communist dictatorship orders or laws you want to mandate.”

I guess this person knows God’s divine plan for our lives? I think not, since God’s divine plan for our lives most assuredly does not mean making other people sick or people dying from a virus.

“You did not listen to the people! I would die for that country! I would die for the constitution! And you know what?! You disgrace me! You know why!? Because you did not listen to we the people! You made your decision!”

This gentleman considers himself a patriot. As such, he should know that in wartime, many of our “rights” are temporarily suspended or modified…that was certainly the case in WW II. He says he would die for the constitution. I assume he has read the document…but must have forgotten what it says.

“And I say Trump 2o20! And I hope everyone of you gets voted out, who votes for a mask here today! Shame on you for voting for a mask!

Shame on you for voting for a mask?  It’s just a mask. Its not some implement of torture. Its not a permanent mark or implant. Its not a forever thing…its just a mask and we only have to wear them until we get things under control…thats it. Nothing more.

“Then render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s.” — Luke 20:25

“For it is not the hearers of the law who are righteous before God, but the doers of the law who will be justified.” — Romans 2:13

The most worrying thing for me, are the ones that are falsely claiming that wearing a mask, or, being told to wear one, is a violation of God’s laws. It most certainly is not.

“For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.” — 2 Timothy 4:3-4

We need to be mindful not to use the Word of God to bolster our own prejudices or biases. We cannot cherry pick those Bible passages that we want to arrogantly use to make our point, especially if our point or argument is false. The reason why this is so dangerous, is because when we do that, we almost always then ignore the rest of God’s will for us.

“I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive. For your obedience is known to all, so that I rejoice over you, but I want you to be wise as to what is good and innocent as to what is evil. The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you.”  — Romans 16:17-20

Whether we be Christian, Jewish, Muslim or any faith, we should always be kind and concerned with the health and well-being of our fellow man. In Christianity, we are taught to be kind and tenderhearted and this is of particular importance today. The pandemic has caused so much sadness and stress that everyone is suffering in some form — ought we not then pull together and do our bit to help in any way we can? Is wearing a mask and keeping some distance really that big of a sacrifice? Of course its not.

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We Have to Banish Hatred from Our Hearts and Minds https://positivitypost.com/we-have-to-banish-hatred-from-our-hearts-and-minds/ Mon, 22 Jun 2020 09:01:22 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15915 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/The murder of George Floyd has ignited a firestorm of emotions over the past few weeks. People all across this country and around the world have successfully shined a light on injustice across the globe. This outpouring of anger and grief have served to give a voice to the fallen and has united millions of people.

The difficult and long overdue discussions about systemic prejudice and bigotry that has afflicted our world for hundreds of years, are starting to happen. Real results are starting. The conversation is alive and its being embraced by good and decent people in every corner of the world. This is how it should be and that is especially true for Christians.

When Christians Hate

I say its especially true for Christians because it is. In the Christian faith, we are taught to be kind, compassionate, loving and generous. That is not debatable because it is a fact and it is the very cornerstone of our faith.

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” – Galatians 3:28

Our world is plagued by many false people’s of faith. These are our brothers and sisters who often claim to be “good Christians” or “good (what ever faith they may be), yet they think and act in direct oppositions to the very things we are taught. There may be basic tenets of Christianity, but we all know there is so much more to being a good Christian. So what do we do when those claiming to be good Christians, are actually filled with malice and hatred? How can we reconcile this hypocrisy? How do we accept those people who claim to be faithful, yet let hatred rule their hearts — for that is what racism and bigotry are…hatred.

“If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.” – 1 John 4:20

Admitting to ourselves that we have these feelings, would be the first step. Understanding the root cause would be the next: “Why do I hate/dislike/disrespect people of a different race/faith/gender/sexual orientation….?”  We can’t have resolution and reconciliation until we admit the problem and truly desire to change. In essence, that desire to change is repentance, which as we know, is required of all Christians. The next step in the healing process must be to actually change. This change may seem like a daunting task considering that sometimes, the very people boasting that they are “good Christians” are the ones exuding the most hatred, but nonetheless, change must come from each of us, even if takes others longer to catch up.

“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. “Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. “And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” – Matthew 6:1-34

“Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart; when he speaks graciously, believe him not, for there are seven abominations in his heart; though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly.” – Proverbs 26:24-26

Hatred and cruelty are sins. They are emotions and actions that put us in direct conflict with our faith. The tragic, senseless deaths of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery, to name just a few, are are dreadful tragedies that cannot be in vain. We all must be moved to create a more loving, compassionate and positive world.

It Starts with Each and Everyone of Us

How do we move forward? What changes can I and you make to help heal the world and make it a more just and positive place?  For starters, for any Christian in the world, that change must come from within our heart. Faith and understanding must empower us to make a more perfect world.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Our desire to be truly good people who do good works and who think good thoughts, must triumph over any fear or hatred that is living inside of us. The only way to do that, is to let love flow freely — not just from us, but into us as well. Sometimes, the fear of being loved is almost as powerful as the fear of giving love.

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” – 1 John 4:7

If we lead from a place of love and compassion, we’ve taken the first major step. That person you hate because of their skin color, religion or sexual orientation?  Whether you realize it or not, they are your brothers and sisters — they are, as all of us are, God’s children.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23

Let’s really listen right now. The world is in a great state of flux and perhaps all of this upheaval is a sign from God. Perhaps…maybe…its a cosmic wake-up call for all of us to change. If we listen and open our hearts, hopefully enough of us will heed the message and real, lasting positive change will come.

One thing we should all try and do is to see the world through one another’s eyes — What do other people experience? What do they hear? What is their world like?  If we have a loving heart and a desire to do good and be understanding and supportive, we may just make it.

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Inspiring Words of Wisdom to Brighten Your Day https://positivitypost.com/inspiring-words-of-wisdom-to-brighten-your-day/ Mon, 15 Jun 2020 09:01:29 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15818 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/I think its safe to say that these days, all of us would appreciate having our day brightened a bit. I find that quotes and sage words of wisdom often help to boost my mood and give me motivation, because they are gentle reminders of what is really important in life.

This collection of positive quotes will hopefully boost your mood a bit and if they do, consider sharing them with your friends and loved ones.

“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.” –James Oppenheim

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”       – Helen Keller

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.”                                – Joseph Campbell

“Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is.” – Anne Frank

“Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” – Andrew Carnegie

“There is no happiness like that of being loved by your fellow creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.” – Charlotte Brontë

“Happiness is not a possession to be prized, it is a quality of thought, a state of mind.” – Daphne du Maurier

“The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.” – Marcel Pagnol

“The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does.” – J.M. Barrie

“In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.” – Tony Robbins

“Happiness doesn’t come from achievements, or money, or any sort of treasure. Happiness is a frame of mind, not a destination. It’s appreciating what you’ve got and building relationships with those around you.” – Janette Rallison

“For just one second, look at your life and see how perfect it is. Stop looking for the next secret door that is going to lead you to your real life. Stop waiting. This is it: there’s nothing else. It’s here, and you’d better decide to enjoy it or you’re going to be miserable wherever you go, for the rest of your life, forever.”             – Lev Grossman

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.”         – Anatole France

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.”   – John Gardner

“It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph begins with you. Always.” – Oprah Winfrey

“If only we’d stop trying to be happy, we could have a pretty good time.”              – Edith Wharton

“Wherever there are wild animals in the world, there is always an opportunity for caring, compassion and kindness.”  – Paul Oxton

And finally, I like this one especially, because it reminds us to do good…to spread happiness when ever and where ever we can…

“And the seed that fell on good soil represents those who hear and accept God’s word and produce a harvest of thirty, sixty, or even a hundred times as much as had been planted.”  – Mark 4:20

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The Incredible Power of Prayer https://positivitypost.com/the-incredible-power-of-prayer/ Mon, 08 Jun 2020 09:01:24 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15844 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/The power of prayer is proven to work miracles. Prayer, when said with sincerity, passion and from the heart, can bring about powerful positive changes. Many people worry about how to pray, but they really shouldn’t, because as long as its heartfelt, its really a personal matter.

Prayer is the means by which we can help to bring God’s incredible power of love, healing and compassion into our daily life. When we pray, we are appealing to God and asking Him for help, guidance, patience, understanding, healing and so much more. If you’re unsure how to best pray, these tips might help you:

  • Pray with a childlike innocence and believe deep in your heart that God hears you.
  • Speak in plain, simple language and always be respectful and hopeful.
  • Don’t be afraid to be passionate!  God is love and kindness and as our Heavenly Father, its okay for us to pray with fervor. In fact, sometimes our need is so great, we actually beseech God, which is fine, because if your need is that urgent, God understands.
  • Let faith rule your heart and words. When we pray, we should have true faith — believe, trust, respect, love and know without a doubt, that God is our almighty creator.
  • Remember to listen. When we pray, we’re asking God for something and its vitally important that we have an open heart to hear what He tells us — most likely, we will feel it, rather than actually hearing it, so by “listen,” I mean to have truly let down your earthly guard, so as to be able to better hear the heavenly answer.
  • Remember to say “please” and “thank you.” When we pray, we should remember that God is not in our world, but it is we who are in His — we are His children. Saying “please” and “thank you” is respectful.
  • Seek forgiveness. I think its so important to always seek forgiveness, even if you think you haven’t done anything wrong. One thing we also sometimes forget, is to ask God for help in being repentant. It’s not just enough to seek forgiveness — trying to change our ways is also critical.
  • Pray for others as well. We should remember that prayer is also precious when we’re praying for other people, even people we don’t know. We can pray for the poor all around the world, or for a the people of a particular country who may be suffering.
  • We can pray just to praise God and say thank you. Prayer doesn’t need to be about asking for something. Try praying just to “chat” with God and/or to just say…“thank you!” and “I love you!”
  • We often think of prayers being said at bedtime, but really, Prayer can be said throughout the day, even if it’s just to say “Thank you for everything God, I love you with all of my heart.”

“We can’t always withdraw to quiet hillsides to pray, but Christ will meet with us in the quiet places of our hearts.” – Sheila Walsh

Prayer is personal. Its our way of communicating with God, so you have to follow your heart. As Christians, we also have to put Christ at the center, so I almost always conclude a prayer with “I pray in Jesus’s name, Amen….” I also pray to Jesus only, but in all of my prayer’s I tell the Blessed Virgin Mary and Jesus that I love them, because I do — it doesn’t matter Catholic or Protestant, because we know that the Blessed Virgin Mary is the Mother Jesus and we know that Jesus is the Son of God, so I include them, as well as pray to them.

Prayer is very powerful and if one believes and has true faith, prayer can lift our spirits, give us hope and a instill within us a feeling of safety and harmony.

“Faith is the most powerful of all forces operating in humanity and when you have it in depth nothing can get you down.” –Norman Vincent Peale

“And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.”  – Hebrews 11:6

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