Positivity Post https://positivitypost.com News about Positive Thinking, simplifying life, reducing stress, inspiration, personal growth, personal finance and happiness. Mon, 18 Jun 2018 09:01:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.6 This is the Most Important Trait We Need to Achieve Success https://positivitypost.com/this-is-the-most-important-trait-we-need-to-achieve-success/ Mon, 18 Jun 2018 09:01:24 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12412 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/If you’re feeling uncertain about your future, you can relax, because you’re in good company. Most people, and that includes the rich and famous, have felt apprehensive about where they were headed in life. But, one trait could change all that.

Oprah Winfrey has achieved incredible success in her life. Deemed a “media mogul,” Oprah has gone from local TV personality, to a titan of industry. But, even she confesses that she tackled deep feelings of uncertainty throughout her life.

During an interview panel at Stanford Graduate School of Business, Oprah told participants that one crucial trait helped her to overcome her uncertainty and discover her life’s true purpose. That vital trait, is “self awareness.”

Sharing her wisdom with students, Oprah said “everyone has a calling,” and that calling is so much more than a job title, adding “you cannot determine what yours is, unless you take the time to actually know who you are and why you’re here.”

Oprah used experiences from her own life as prime examples. She cited how despite being a budding journalist in Baltimore, she was demoted from her co-anchor position, which demoralized her, but also awakened  that deep feeling that she was still not yet fulfilling her personal destiny.

Overcoming that that career set-back in Baltimore, Winfrey went on to become a bonafide success in Chicago, where she hosted a long-running popular morning program for 25 years. However, she heard that inner voice and still felt that something was missing.

“I started to feel like this isn’t it. There’s something more … that’s calling me to what is a supreme moment,” Winfrey recounted. “And everybody has that.”

To find your true “something more,” Oprah says that we all need a level of self awareness that only comes from connecting with our inner voice. “I call it your emotional GPS system,” says Winfrey.

Oprah credits listening to her inner voice for her phenomenal success, adding, “I live a fantastic life. I live from the inside out.”

The Secret to Lasting Success and Happiness

It really starts with self-discovery. Who are you? What makes you tick? What are you passionate about?  What is that voice inside you saying? That intuitive feeling deep within you is telling you something, and you have to take the time to listen to it. Countless high achievers have heard this voice and more importantly, listened to it and they credit this “self-awareness” not only for their success, but also for their happiness.

Sue Hawkes, author ofChasing Perfection: Minimize Self-Doubt and Maximize Successsays that while many notable achievers extol the  importance of listening to that intuitive inner voice, many of us fail to actually harness it because we’re too busy to really hear it and act on it.

To hear, connect with and, act on yours, she suggests finding a “quiet space” free  from distractions and simply be calm — relax, keep still and…listen. Once you’re at peace and focused on your deepest self/thoughts, that’s when it happens.

And Oprah agrees: “Every decision that has profited me has come from me listening to that inner voice. Everything that I have, I have because I let it be fueled by who I am.”

Success and Happiness Are Not the Same Thing

We can have success, but not be happy. We can be happy, but not successful in the commonly accepted definition. Or, we can have both. To have both takes self-discovery and that means listening to our inner voice and finding out who we are, what we want to be, and, what makes us passionate in life. When you hear that voice inside telling you “you’re not where you want to be,” listen to it…hear what it has to say.

You can watch Oprah Winfrey’s full talk at Stanford here.

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Don’t Mess with These Cats! https://positivitypost.com/dont-mess-with-these-cats/ Fri, 15 Jun 2018 09:01:58 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12388 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Happy Friday friends! It’s “Feel Good Friday,” and what better way to help kick-off the weekend than with a funny animal video? Animals are a source of great joy and comfort for us and quite often, their goofy antics make us roll on the floor in laughter.

Enjoy this hysterical video of some truly tough-as-nails Cats — its sure to put a smile on your face!

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Is Childhood Idyllic Anymore? https://positivitypost.com/is-childhood-idyllic-anymore/ Wed, 13 Jun 2018 09:01:43 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12366 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Yesterday, I reminisced about my childhood and happy memories flooded my mind. Vivid recollections of summer days flashed in an out all day and I delighted in remembering how wonderful they were. What brought about these happy memories, is actually a bit sad.

I say “sad” because what prompted my happy memories was the weather. The last few days where I live have been gorgeous — blue sky, cool temperatures, bright sun and cool breezes. I’ve been relishing these few days, soaking up nature’s beauty and enjoying the picture perfect weather. As I savored the ideal weather, I recalled that this is how summer’s were when I was young — the days were sunny and bright and cool breezes rustled the trees, rushing over you and keeping you cool under the sun. Back in my youth, this type of summer weather was not the exception, but the norm.

Today however, days like this are indeed the exception. Now, a majority of summer weather is often hot, sticky and overcast. Even when the sun is shining, it’s oppressive and cool summer breezes are only found in memories of a time gone by.

I hesitate to even mention climate change, because the topic has been so politicized that its almost risky to mention it. But, mention it I will.

Last week, when talking to a good friend on the subject, my friend said “I really don’t want to talk politics right now.” Floored, I responded that climate change is not a political issue…it’s very much a science and nature issue. So, how did something that is all about fact and science, get politicized? I don’t know, but somewhere along the way, we allowed the issue to become one of “liberal vs. conservative” and this fact is having very detrimental consequences.

Today, the youth of the world see what is happening as “the norm.”
They don’t know what summers used to be like — for them, they’ve been raised in a time of extremes — extreme heat, cold, rain, snow, wind. Sadly, they don’t really have happy memories of carefree days spent outside with friends.

In my childhood, we were outdoors playing and swimming from dawn to dark. We didn’t worry about the extreme heat and humidity, because it didn’t really exist…and if it did, it was very rare. We didn’t stress over ticks and Lyme disease, because it was almost unheard of — in fact, in my entire life, I never had a tick on me…that is until recent years, in which it is now assumed you will find one on your body.

So today was a happy day because I am blessed to have had a wonderful childhood. My greatest worries were about silly things, like whether or not I’d be allowed to have ice cream after dinner that night. My friends and I laughed and played and frolicked…yes, frolicked!  For isn’t that what childhood should be about? Shouldn’t it be about carefree days and restful nights?

Sadly, kids today have so much to worry about — the climate is changing, whether some people want to admit it or not. And with that change comes harsh weather, invasive bugs that carry dreadful diseases making their way into areas they would normally never survive, animals migration patterns thrown off track…and more.

So my happiness was twinged with some sadness today, because I wish that our youth could know the easier days of yesterday. Oh, and in case one of those young people should ask — my childhood was in the late 70’s – the 80’s, so really, not all that long ago. So yes, things have changed fast, but the truth is, not entirely for the better.

My positivity perspective on this topic is: its never too late to make a change and fix things — it may be hard, but it is doable. We just need to all agree to do it.

“The time for action is now. It’s never too late to do something.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

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What the Ancient Stoics Knew About Happiness https://positivitypost.com/what-the-ancient-stoics-knew-about-happiness/ Mon, 11 Jun 2018 09:01:59 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12332 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/How many articles about happiness have you read in your life? Probably a an awful lot! But as the saying goes, “trying and doing are two different things.” Like many people, you may have read a lot and tried a few of these tips, yet are still not happy.

When it comes to reading and doing, we can consume all the self-help materials that exist, but until one is actually ready to “do,” its mostly just theory — and at some point, theories need to be put into practice.

I’ve been reading about the ancient Stoics and the concept of “stoicism.” Stoics understood that one cannot be happy by just absorbing knowledge and seeking happiness — they knew that to be happy, one had to adapt the techniques and put it all into motion.

“That’s why the philosophers warn us not to be satisfied with mere learning, but to add practice and then training. For as time passes we forget what we learned and end up doing the opposite, and hold opinions the opposite of what we should.” — Epictetus

Stoicism is an ancient Greek philosophy (developed by Zeno of Citium around 300 B.C. as a refinement of Cynicism) which teaches the development of self-control and fortitude as a means of overcoming destructive emotions. It does not seek to extinguish emotions completely, but rather seeks to transform them by a resolute Asceticism (a voluntary abstinence from worldly pleasures), which enables a person to develop clear judgment, inner calm and freedom from suffering (which it considers the ultimate goal).

Stoicism is not just a set of beliefs or ethical claims, but rather a way of life, involving constant practice and training, and incorporating the practice of logic, Socratic dialogue and self-dialogue, contemplation of death, and a kind of meditation aimed at training one’s attention to remain in the present moment. – The Basics of Philosophy

After doing some reading, some of the life-lessons I took away from the stoics made perfect sense. Their approach to living life in an active state of happiness encompass some of the following actions:

Life isn’t the problem — our attitude and interpretations of life are the issue

Events in life aren’t really the issue. It’s how we react to them and let them control us that zap our happiness.

You’re almost late for work and while rushing for the train, you see your neighbor on the sidewalk. He doesn’t know you’re running late, so he stops to say hello and ask how you’re doing — this makes you miss your train and you seethe inside blaming him and thus, allowing yourself to ruin your own day.

Your neighbor did nothing wrong. He was simply happy to see you and he wanted to talk to you. Why blame him?  Why blame anyone for that matter? Of course it’s not optimal that you’re now actually late for work, but allowing anger to consume you doesn’t really negatively impact anyone but you.

It’s how we interpret and react that matters. Stoics believed that the world is what it is and we allow ourselves to be unhappy (read: angry), because of how we interpret situations and events. But, if we choose to, we can change those interpretations and change our feelings.

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…” Epictetus

Stop, breathe, relax

Next time you find yourself becoming agitated over something, consciously ask yourself why you’re letting it bother you. Before letting negative emotion overtake us, we should take a deep breath and really look at our emotional and physical response — is it worth allowing it to make us unhappy?

While there are many circumstances, events and people that can drive us nuts, the reality is, that can only happen if we let it.

Your friend was supposed to call you and make plans to have dinner that evening. She doesn’t. You sit home alone and one of two things can happen:

You can rage inside about your “terrible friend” and dwell on being blown off. The result? Your mood sours, and you become so agitated, you eat a pint of ice cream, falling asleep on the couch, waking up the next morning, moody, bloated and achy from a bad night’s sleep.

– or –

You quickly acknowledge being a bit annoyed, but you decide to make the most out of your evening. You make a healthy salad and decide to watch a movie on Netflix. That movie turns out to be one of the best you’ve seen in ages. It makes you laugh out loud and it  lifts your spirits, re-energizing your mental health. All-in-all, deep down, you had a better evening than had you gone out to dinner.

In a cruel twist of fait, when it comes to the personal choice of being happy or not, choosing not to be seems to come so much easier than opting to be happy. I don’t know why that is, but it does. This is why before we react, we need to stop, breathe, think and then, with a clear head, choose the path of happiness.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl

Condition your mind

With positivity, its most often about consciously choosing the good over the bad. It’s about taking the right path and moving in a healthy direction. The same is true with the principles of stoicism. You can let events control you, or, you can better control those events, by not letting them dictate your reaction. If we consciously accept this and work to train our minds, we can transition away from being reactive, to being active — and that is to actively choose how we respond to negative situations.

You can’t change people

People! They can be the greatest cause of our unhappiness. For one thing, its usually people that cause the very events and circumstances that result in our becoming angry/unhappy. So, unless we can change other people, we’re going to have to change ourselves (its also good to note here that we ourselves can be the cause of someone else’s unhappiness, whether we mean to or not).  One of the best mindsets to adapt is to accept that people are not perfect, and that includes ourselves. Knowing this, we should always choose to love people without limit — we should strive to be calm, patient and kind and, work to not judge or hate another person.

“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be One.” – Marcus Aurelius

This is new?

My take-away after reading more about the stoics is that I already knew most of this and odds are, so do you. But chiefly, my take-away is that it all make sense: we can keep reading techniques on how to be happy, until we’ve saturated our mind with these tip, or, we can finally implement them and just be happy. As with most learned knowledge, at some point, we need to put it all into action — we have to stop reading and start doing.

So what I learned was really all about “action” — taking that leap of faith and just being happy.

“In your actions, don’t procrastinate. In your conversations, don’t confuse. In your thoughts, don’t wander. In your soul, don’t be passive or aggressive. In your life, don’t be all about business.” – Marcus Aurelius

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.” – Harvey Mackay

You might also like:

Being Happy is a Choice. This is How You Start Choosing It

Change Your Life by Changing Your Perception

 

You can learn more about Stoicism here.

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20 Inspiring Quotes to Help You Stay Motivated https://positivitypost.com/20-inspiring-quotes-to-help-you-stay-motivated/ Fri, 08 Jun 2018 09:01:29 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12303 A simple word of kindness can do wonders for a person feeling down. The same is true for words of inspiration and motivation. Sometimes, all it takes is a gentle reminder of what’s truly important in life to keep us motivated — these pearls of wisdom should do just that.

We hope you find hope and inspiration in these marvelous words!

“You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing.” – Alan Watts

“If the wind will not serve, take to the oars.” – Latin proverb

Don’t judge. You don’t know what storms someone has just walked through.” – Kristen Butler

“When you don’t manage your life well, you become angry and frustrated as things don’t go as intended, and our bad mood is a sign showing we were not able to resolve the conflict.”  – Jorge Bucay

“No thought, no reflection, no analysis, no cultivation, no intention; let it settle itself.” – Tilopa

“The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof.” – Barbara Kingsolver

“Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.” – Miyamoto Musashi

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli

“Many people think excitement is happiness… But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

“You are a beautiful soul wrapped up in a human body. It’s your job to unwrap, and find your soul again.”
– Steven Aitchison

“Be content to act, and leave the talking to others.” – Baltasar Gracin

“Nothing ever exists entirely alone. Everything is in relation to everything else.” – Buddha

“Wherever you are, you are one with the clouds and one with the sun and the stars you see. You are one with everything. That is more true than I can say, and more true than you can hear.” – Shunryu Suzuki

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu

“If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?” – Dogen

“If you want to change the world, start with the next person who comes to you in need.” – B. D. Schiers

“Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” – Rumi

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent Peale

“To follow the path, look to the master, follow the master, walk with the master, see through the master, become the master.” – Zen proverb

“Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free: Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.” – Chuang

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Personal Finance Roundup https://positivitypost.com/personal-finance-roundup/ Wed, 06 Jun 2018 09:01:50 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12291 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/There are some really fantastic resources for all things personal finance. We’ve shared many of these sources and from them, we’ve found a few great personal finance articles this week that we’re sharing with our readers.

Below are helpful articles from Wise Bread, The Penny Hoarder and The Simple Dollar.  We hope you’ll find them as interesting and helpful as we did. Enjoy!

» 11 Ways to Get Out of Debt Faster

» How to Plan Your Best Summer Staycation Ever

» 12 Cool Travel Items for Your Summer Vacation

» 7 Ways You Can Save $1,000 by Christmas, If You Start Now

» Nine Jobs That Let You Travel the World for Free

» 12 Ways to Save Money and Add $5K to Your Bank Account This Year

» 8 Legitimate Paid Survey Sites to Make Extra Money Each Month

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Why Isn’t America More at Ease? https://positivitypost.com/why-isnt-america-more-at-ease/ Mon, 04 Jun 2018 09:01:55 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12258 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/CNN ran a piece this Saturday that made some excellent points and asked some great questions. But for me, they seemed to be answering their own questions and I’m not entirely sure they got it right. That they didn’t is a reason why America is still not at ease.

The piece was based on the premise that “America should be more at ease than this” and asked the question that if America is doing demonstrably well on so many levels, why are we still so unhappy?

When I read the headline, I was excited — could the mainstream media finally be counted on to address the growing discord in this country? Have they, at long last, realized that they’ve helped to create the problem and now seek to play a role in healing the nation?  Well, as I found out, not really.

As I read the article, the one thing that struck me was that the author was asking the right questions and raising valid points, but he then seemed to answer those questions as the mainstream media often does:  it’s “so-and-so’s fault!” In essence, they primarily placed the blame squarely on one person — in this case, that was President Trump. I was a bit crestfallen because my enthusiasm was, as is often the case these days, short-lived.

Here is an excerpt from that CNN piece by Stephen Collinson

(CNN) It should be morning again, in America.

The unemployment rate matched its lowest level in half a century. North Korea is talking peace. The fear of imminent terrorist attacks that haunted the 2000s has ebbed. While many troops are still in harm’s way, the US no longer has tens of thousands of soldiers waging vast land wars in the Middle East.

“We have such a great country right now,” President Donald Trump told reporters at the White House on Friday.

“We have some of the best economic numbers we’ve ever had as a nation and that goes a long way and we’re building something very special.”

Yet the United States is a long way from the fabled sense of security encapsulated by Ronald Reagan’sMorning in America” re-election ad.

America is not at ease with itself. And it’s putting the rest of the world on edge.

There have been more dangerous and polarized moments in American history — but it’s tough to recall a time when political discourse was so mean, and so dispiriting.

This week, the White House could not bring itself to condemn a racist attack by Roseanne Barr, one of Trump’s most vocal supporters. Comedienne Samantha Bee did say sorry — but only after calling the President’s daughter Ivanka a “feckless c***” — in what was just the latest explosion of angry and divisive rhetoric that punctuates most days in the Trump era.

Stephen Collinson is obviously a bright person and I did appreciate his article because people like him do help to get a national debate going. Overall, his points are right on:  the nation is actually doing fairly well, so why are people still so miserable?  Why is there still such political discourse?

Mr. Collinson goes on to write:

Who is to blame?

The biggest question in politics is how much is Trump responsible for the distemper?

Well, he didn’t invent political divisions and bare-knuckle politics.

Presidents — with the possible exception of George Washington — have cursed for eons, and politics has never been for the easily offended. After all, an opponent once called former Vice President John Nance Garner a “labor baiting, poker playing, whiskey-drinking, evil old man.”

But the vitriol is constant these days. Insults and controversies erupt every hour.

And there’s no question that Trump, who called Mexican immigrants rapists, mocked a reporter with disabilities and branded protesting NFL players sons of bitches, has coarsened political discourse.

Many critics believe he’s abandoned the notion that presidents should offer a moral lead. And Trump’s winner/loser life calculus explains why he’s ignored Americans who didn’t vote for him.

His presidency functions in a riptide of chaos and acrimony — in fact, its bewildering pace and emotive whirl may be what it needs to survive.

Its existential purpose is tearing at societal, racial and cultural fault lines to ensure its foundation is replenished by outrage and anger from Trump’s ever loyal base.

His relentless churn leaves no time for reflection, or connecting the dots of a noxious political environment.

And anger begets anger. Trump’s opponents start to adopt his own unchained rhetoric — often on Twitter — and barriers of decorum and decency are overwhelmed.

But in office, he’s worsened national dislocation by making lying and the peddling of conspiracy theories a central political strategy. His presidency is rooted in an assault on the institutions — like the Justice Department and the FBI — that underpin American public life. And he’s turned on America’s friends abroad, launching trade wars with Europe and Canada.

This is about where Mr. Collinson lost me — not totally lost me, but I had the same reaction many people will have reading this: clearly, as he points out, the problems plaguing us are not new, so how then could a newcomer like Trump be so responsible for our nation not being at ease?

Yes, Stephen Collinson did make some references to the Obama administration and to events that occurred long before Donald Trump was elected, but he still seems to be putting the blame mostly on Donald Trump. And its in this that I see hypocrisy. Mr. Collinson and CNN appear to be saying that political discourse is nothing  new…but that it has never been this bad…but they then kind of say it has been this bad in the past. So which is it? It’s always been this way, but since we don’t like Donald Trump, we’re just going to dump all of this on him? I’m not quite clear as to what their aim is.

And this is why he sort of lost me…..

You probably know, I’m not a fan of Donald Trump. However, I strongly believe that while President Trump has been quite divisive, he is most assuredly not to blame for all of the strife and political discourse in the country — in fact, he’s more a symptom of it and to an extent, a reason why those symptoms got worse.

So who is to blame?

Ultimately, we’re all to blame.

But, if you note in the article, he mentions two incidents by celebrities — namely Roseanne Barr and Samantha Bee. For me, this is quite significant, because to an extent, Hollywood is to blame. Celebrities can’t seem to keep their opinions to themselves and with every tweet and quip, they make the situation worse. The mainstream media then picks up on their comments and within an hour, they’ve been broadcast across the world — each time the story is aired or posted, it gets “updated” with personal views from various political pundits and the story becomes more controversial than it really needs to be. I think of it like a very evil version of the “telephone game,” as it gets warped and twisted each time its told.

This sensationalism causes an explosion of reaction from the public and as this “story” grows and festers, the CNN’s of the world smell sensationalism and keep propagating it relentlessly.

So like millions of Americans, I put a lot of the blame on Hollywood. People are increasingly weary of celebrities pushing their views on the rest of us — they tweet from their $30 million mansions and create turmoil, subjecting the nation to strife — meanwhile, 99.5 % of us don’t have a public platform from which to express our views.

But it’s not just Hollywood that’s to blame and in my humble, personal opinion, much of the the real blame falls to:

  • The news media. From CNN, to Fox News, MSNBC and the big 3 networks, news has become a multi-billion dollar industry. With the need to fill 24 hours a day, 7 days- a-week, these news outlets turn anything they can into a “breaking news” story. This comes with a price — people are saturated with salacious headlines and news bites and the most insignificant “story” is misleadingly  turned into a major  news event.
  • Politicians: I think we all recognize that many political leaders are in fact, not leaders at all. For many, getting elected is more about their own ego than it is about the greater good. Once elected, they get rich and want to hang onto power at any cost. They employ a scorched policy to cling to power and that means they need to vilify and demonize their opponent and their respective political party. Using fear tactics, twisted facts and outright lies, they’ll make you believe that the opposing candidate and their party are out to destroy America.  This “us vs. them” mentality was created by politicians and it’s being spread by the news media and Hollywood. It truly is a vicious circle.
  • Agitators: Russia, China and other foreign powers really are meddling in our nation. They’re using the web to infiltrate and spread hysteria. This is actually a proven fact and, nothing new. This has been happening for hundreds of years and was a big problem during the American Revolution. However, they didn’t have the internet, so today, it’s simple for them to plant false stories and stir the pot. Think about some of the comments you read on a news site — is that really “John Smith” in Sheboygan posting that conspiracy-laden comment? Perhaps not?
  • Us: Any of us who perpetuate the strife by letting ourselves be consumed with politics is to blame. If we believe everything we hear and read and we get caught up in the fray, we have no one to blame but ourselves. Maybe we need to take a step back, think before we react, and realize that there is more to live than politics.
  • Greed and envy: There’s a reason these are among the 7 deadly sins. The need to keep up with the Jones’ and the obsession with materialism is taking its toll. We’re not as settled and happy as we should be, because so many among us always want more…and more…and more. This unhealthy obsession leads to stress, aggravation and unhappiness.

And…

  • The loss of compromise and compassion is to blame. Too many of us are hardening our hearts, digging our heals in and refusing to compromise. Today, so many people take a harsh, rigid stance and use a war-like mentality to life — “it’s my way…or no way!”

But in a turbulent time, kids now talk openly about the possibility of being shot at school. A new study in the journal Science suggests deepening polarization made Thanksgiving dinners up to 50 minutes shorter in politically divided families last year. – Stephen Collinson, CNN

CNN had a real opportunity here. Mr. Collinson eloquently tried to address the problem and in my opinion he did well, but until CNN and the rest of the mainstream media genuinely approaches the problem with complete impartiality, nothing will change. Donald Trump isn’t solely to blame, nor will he solve our problems— in fact, odds are pretty solid that no politician or celebrity will either — that falls to you, and to me.

Living a happy, contented life is a personal choice. Today, I hope more of us chose to live in peace, harmony and positivity by rejecting hysteria and vitriol.

Please take the time to read Mr. Collinson’s full article on CNN — it’s well worth the read and does make some excellent point.

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45 Incredible Life Lessons We Should All Learn https://positivitypost.com/45-incredible-life-lessons-we-should-all-learn/ Fri, 01 Jun 2018 09:01:18 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12245 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/There is no shortage of “tips” and “helpful hints” these days, but among the plethora of advice and suggestions, one can often find true gems —pearls of wisdom that make you sit up and take notice. We’ve found some of those gems, so please read on.

Sometimes we forget what is important in life and we need a reminder. These life lessons from Regina Brett are enlightening and so true and are just the reminder we need:

1.      Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2.      When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3.      Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4.      Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5.      Pay off your credit cards every month.

6.      You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7.      Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8.      Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.

9.      When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

10.  Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

11.  It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

12.  Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

13.  If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

14.  Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

15.  You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

16.  A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

17.  It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

18.  When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

19.  Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

20.  Over-prepare, then go with the flow.

21.  Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

22.  The most important sex organ is the brain.

23.  No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

24.  Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

25.  Forgive everyone everything.

26.  What other people think of you is none of your business.

27.  Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

28.  However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

29.  Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

30.  Believe in miracles.

31.  Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

32.  Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

33.  Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

34.  Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

35.  If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

36.  Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

37.  Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

38.  All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39.  Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

40.  The best is yet to come.

41.  No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

42.  Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

43.  If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

44.  Yield.

45.  Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

 

Fantastic words of wisdom — there’s something there for everyone. Which one(s) are your favorite?

 

To read more words of wisdom from Regina Brett, check out her personal website!

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Plant the Mustard Seed of Hope https://positivitypost.com/plant-the-mustard-seed-of-hope/ Tue, 29 May 2018 09:01:51 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12218 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Hope is something we all cling to and rightfully so. Hope ‘springs eternal’ because it is a potent life force that empowers and enables us to face challenges. Without hope, what kind of future does man have?

Hope is essential to our lives because it keeps us going — it diminishes feelings of helplessness, reduces our stress level and it boosts our happiness, which improves our quality of life.

Hope is an active emotion that looks to the future with positivity — its the thing that lets us see opportunity in challenges, rather than challenges in our opportunities. Hope is the power that lets us see the potential good in our future, even when we can’t always control how that future will turn out.

Hope is Light

There are some among us who sadly suffer from a mental illness, such as depression and for these brave souls, hope is something they crave, but unfortunately, often can’t muster. For the rest of us however, abandoning hope is really giving in. When we let hope slip away, we can easily be overcome with darkness and sink into a pit of despair. We must fight that loss of hope with all our power. Hope shows us the light at the end of the tunnel and no matter how long that tunnel may seem, the light is there all the same — it’s hope that lets us find that light.

I recently read the Bible parable of “the mustard seed” and it dawned on me that hope is just like the story of the mustard seed!  Here are two of the parables to demonstrate:

He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” – Matthew 17:20

This makes perfect sense. Plant that small seed and nourish it — encourage it to grow…believe in it, and before you know, it will bloom strong and mighty!  This is true for hope as well. Sometimes, all we need is a tiny seed of hope to get us going. That feeling deep down that somehow, things will get better — that glimmer of light in our heart and soul that will grow stronger and brighter it we nurture it.

In Matthew 13:31-32, the parable of the mustard seed is used again: “The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his field. Though it is the smallest of all your seeds, yet when it grows, it is the largest of garden plants and becomes a tree, so that the birds of the air come and perch in its branches.”

Life can be hard and we all know that. Having hope isn’t a cure-all and we of course do need to be realistic in life. But hope is like the mustard seed: with a little hope, more hope grows and it flourishes and spreads out like a healing light. Hope propels us forward with a sense of good, optimism and determination.

Please, never lose hope and never take hope away from anyone. If we do one good deed a day, let that deed be to inspire hope in another — help to plant the mustard seed in their heart.

“Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don’t give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.”  – Tena Desae

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Life is Meant to be Truly Lived https://positivitypost.com/life-is-meant-to-be-truly-lived/ Thu, 24 May 2018 09:01:11 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=12150 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Time is just flying by! We’re almost half-way through 2018. Where did the time go? Judging by a new study, about 25% of Americans let that time pass them by as they sat inside all day. That can’t be good, can it? Life should be lived out loud, bold and beautiful!

Years ago, people were more active and socially engaged. They went out and did things. They did “stuff” all over the place, but the important part is, they were outside living their life. Nowadays, folks are frittering their lives away by sitting in front of a computer or TV screen.

The Washington Times recently reported on this trend and the findings of the study are alarming. From the Washington Times:

‘Indoor generation’: A quarter of Americans spend all day inside, survey finds – The Washington Times

Call them the in(side) crowd.

About 25 percent of Americans hardly ever venture outside, unaware or unconcerned about breathing only stale indoor air, a report says.

In an age when nearly everything can be found (and delivered) online — including food, entertainment and relationships — it’s hardly surprising to discover an “indoor generation.”

 “We are increasingly turning into a generation of indoor people where the only time we get daylight and fresh air midweek is on the commute to work or school,” Peter Foldbjerg, the head of daylight energy and indoor climate at Velux, a window manufacturing company, said in a statement.

According to the federal Bureau of Labor Statistics, a nine-hour workday is the average for American wage-earners. When they return home on a typical day, 85 percent of women and 67 percent of men spend time doing work around the house.

Leisure time has become synonymous with television viewing, according to the federal data. Many Americans spend nearly three hours a day in front of the tube, and teenagers spend more than half of their leisure time with screens.

“I think, time and time again, research shows that people who spend more time indoors — whether it’s at home or sitting all day at work — they tend to be linked to higher rates of obesity, issues with cholesterol, and also mental health issues like anxiety and depression,” said Dr. Natasha Bhuyan, a family physician with One Medical in the District of Columbia.

Read the full article from The Washington Times here.

This really isn’t living life, is it? You can google articles and images about nature all day long, but that will never compare to being outside, immersing one’s self in the reaffirming beauty of nature. We can tweet, post and text with ‘friends’ till dawn, but that will never come close to seeing those friends in the flesh.

We’re social beings and by social, I don’t mean through ‘social media.’ We need to interact and communicate with one another face-to-face — if we’re stuck inside all day, how will that ever happen?

Some people are unfortunately housebound, so for them it’s understandable. But for those who aren’t, we should all make the most out of life by experiencing it and living it to the fullest. And, for those among us who are housebound, be a friend to them by calling them or better yet, visit them — that caring human interaction could make all the difference in the world to them.

“Don’t wait. Make memories today. Celebrate your life!” – Author unknown

 

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