Positivity Post https://positivitypost.com News about Positive Thinking, simplifying life, reducing stress, inspiration, personal growth, personal finance and happiness. Mon, 22 Apr 2019 09:01:38 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.0.4 Personal Finance Roundup XII https://positivitypost.com/personal-finance-roundup-xii/ https://positivitypost.com/personal-finance-roundup-xii/#comments Mon, 22 Apr 2019 09:01:38 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14461 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/How did one woman make $1,200 in a season from a home gardening business? Why can’t college grads answer simple questions about money? What 3 cities will your retirement money last the longest? Find out the answers to these questions and a whole lot more.

In the latest post to our personal finance roundup series, we’ve found articles and information that will surely be of great interest and will help to answer these questions and many more.

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Love is the Most Powerful Force https://positivitypost.com/love-is-the-most-powerful-force/ https://positivitypost.com/love-is-the-most-powerful-force/#comments Mon, 15 Apr 2019 09:01:42 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14427 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Love is truly miraculous! Love can indeed conquer all. With love not just in our hearts, but leading our heart, imagine the good we could do in this world? We’re blessed that love is in abundance and now, we just need to share it outwards.

This collection of quotes on love is truly inspirational. Find the ones that speak to you and then call upon those words to help you radiate love out to all the world. The more love we give, the more we receive and this powerful recipe is exactly what the world needs right now.

“Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.” — Rainer Maria Rilke

 “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” — Morrie Schwartz

“Love in its essence is spiritual fire.” — Seneca

“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”  — Eleanor Roosevelt

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” — Maya Angelou

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” — Henry Miller

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” — Rumi

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” — Lucille Ball

“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” — Oscar Wilde

“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.” — Hubert H. Humphrey

“Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.” — Vincent Van Gogh

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.” — Marcus Aurelius

“Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do.” — David Wilkerson

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” — Martin Luther King, Jr.

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.”                    — Sophocles

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.” — Wayne Dyer

“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” — Barbara De Angelis

“When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world.”               — Harry Palmer

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” — Lao Tzu

“The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.” Mitch Albom

“What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is what love looks like.” Saint Augustine

“Growth of the soul is our goal, and there are many ways to encourage that growth, such as through love, nature, healing our wounds, forgiveness, and service. The soul grows well when giving and receiving love. I nourish my soul daily by loving others and being vulnerable to their love. Love is, after all, a verb, an action word, not a noun.” Joan Z. Borysenko

“The most important requirement for our emotional health and happiness is Real Love. Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.” Greg Baer

“Plant each hour a thought of love for those who have hurt you, destroy the idea that anyone can take away your happiness. Love begets love, so remember this law of sowing and reaping, for the more love you give, the more will be returned to you.” Albert E. Cliffe

And the most powerful quote “…Love your neighbor as yourself.”  Jesus Christ

Imagine how wonderful this world would be if we truly did love our neighbors as we love ourselves!

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Our Government is Now Outsourcing Their Own Jobs https://positivitypost.com/our-government-is-now-outsourcing-their-own-jobs/ https://positivitypost.com/our-government-is-now-outsourcing-their-own-jobs/#comments Mon, 08 Apr 2019 09:01:26 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14401 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/A friend sent me an article yesterday that really made me feel betrayed. A deep investigative article has uncovered some disturbing truths about the way our government is being run. Long story short, we’re being duped and it’s by those we elect to represent “we, the people.”

Those that know me know that I try to be very open-minded and look at both sides of the story. However, with this particular news story, what we’ve long suspected has been proven true — many of the people we elected to represent us, are actually deceiving us, because they’re not doing their job…at all.

From the article I reference:

You elected them to write new laws. They’re letting corporations do it instead.

Each year, state lawmakers across the U.S. introduce thousands of bills dreamed up and written by corporations, industry groups and think tanks.

Disguised as the work of lawmakers, these so-called “model” bills get copied in one state Capitol after another, quietly advancing the agenda of the people who write them.

A two-year investigation by USA TODAY, The Arizona Republic  and the Center for Public Integrity reveals for the first time the extent to which special interests have infiltrated state legislatures using model legislation.

I don’t know about you, but to me, this is unacceptable. They’re basically outsourcing their job! They’re letting corporations and other special interest write the laws and of course, those laws benefit them and not us. Congress is, by it’s very nature, supposed to be for the people — we elect them to represent us in government and not corporations or special interests. Yes, of course there are lobby groups, but Congress should not be letting them or anyone else write the laws of the land for them.

More from the article:

“…USA TODAY and the Republic found at least 10,000 bills almost entirely copied from model legislation were introduced nationwide in the past eight years, and more than 2,100 of those bills were signed into law.

The investigation examined nearly 1 million bills in all 50 states and Congress using a computer algorithm developed to detect similarities in language. That search – powered by the equivalent of 150 computers that ran nonstop for months – compared known model legislation with bills introduced by lawmakers.

The phenomenon of copycat legislation is far larger. In a separate analysis, the Center for Public Integrity identified tens of thousands of bills with identical phrases, then traced the origins of that language in dozens of those bills across the country….”

You might be asking what this has to do with positivity. The answer is, a lot. Being a positive person means being proactive. It means confronting a wrong and injustices and trying to make things right. What is happening in our government is wrong. Strike that…it’s not just wrong, it’s outrageous. The problem is, our moral compass is askew. People think “well, it’s just this one time…”  but it rarely is just that one time, because that one time becomes two, then three and before you know it, the bar has been set and that wrong becomes legitimized through that mindset.

What can I do?

There is a lot we can do. For one, read the full article. It’s an excellent piece of investigative journalism. Secondly, contact your elected representative and demand that this stop — even if your particular member of Congress isn’t engaged in this objectionable practice, they should at least be speaking against it.

Consider this one sub-headline in the article: Voters say they want one thing. Special interests get lawmakers to do the opposite.”  That alone should prompt you to read the article and take action, because in every sense of the word, the voice and will of the people is being ignored. 

In order for us to confront a wrong, we have to be willing to actually take action. I hope you will.

Read the full article here.

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Millennials Stressed Out for All the Wrong Reasons https://positivitypost.com/millennials-stressed-out-for-all-the-wrong-reasons/ Mon, 01 Apr 2019 09:01:16 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14341 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Wasn’t technology supposed to make our lives easier? All these dandy inventions were heralded as a means to improve our lives and make them less complicated. Turns out, they’ve done anything but make our lives simpler. In fact, in some ways, they’ve created a stress mess.

A new study out reports that young adults are stressed to the max. You might think they’re stressed about climate change, the political landscape or world hunger — sadly, you’d be mistaken on that. It seems that our youth are stressed out because of technology.

From studyfinds.org:

“Many feel their overall stress level is caused by the accumulation of daily micro-stressors — seemingly trivial experiences — such as being stuck in traffic, waiting for appointments, or various smartphone issues.”

From Endoca, the company that commissioned the stress survey:

Given that priorities tend to shift as time goes on, millennials are no different, and our research uncovered the fact that today’s digital age is causing a bulk of their stress:

  • One third believe their phone dying when lost is more stressful than fraudulent charges on their credit card
  • 30% put WiFi-issues at a higher rate of stress than being stuck in traffic
  • One in five reports that getting zero likes on a social media post is more stress-inducing than having a big argument with their partner

In a snapshot, here are the top 10 stress inducers for millennial’s:

  1. Losing wallet/credit card
  2. Arguing with partner
  3. Commute/traffic delays
  4. Losing phone
  5. Arriving late to work
  6. Slow WiFi
  7. Phone battery dying
  8. Forgetting passwords
  9. Credit card fraud
  10. Forgetting phone charger

The study shows that 58% of millennial’s, or about 3 out of 5 of them, feel life is getting more stressful right now and that it’s more stressful than ever before. That belief is what disturbs me. For them, losing their phone, or not getting “likes” on social media, is more of a stress inducer than was the Cold War to their elders. They fear their phone battery dying more than they do world hunger. Terrorism must not be an issue in their minds, since commuting delays are near the top of their stress list. How can this be?

We were warned by many great minds that technology can and will be abused. It will be hailed as a savior, but in use, will end up proving to be a significant negative. Of course, some technology, such as in medicine, etc., is a very good thing. But, when people let their smartphones or social media profiles control their lives, the warnings have been proven true.

Life is not meant to be lived in cyberspace. We’re living, breathing organic life and as such, we need the right kind of stimulation — we need to do things that challenge our minds, exercise our bodies and nourish our souls.  While I do sympathize, if millennial’s are stressed out by technology, perhaps putting down their phones for a while and staying off social media for a few days weeks would do them a world of good. And, while they’re at it, when it comes to getting their news, they may just want to pick up a good ole’ fashioned newspaper — they’ll probably find, as are many these days, that without the din of talking heads or online hysterics, stress levels go down.

 

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We Are All Involved in This Journey Called Life https://positivitypost.com/we-are-all-involved-in-this-journey-called-life/ Mon, 25 Mar 2019 09:01:29 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14364 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/How many times in any given day do we have the opportunity to help someone? How often do we have the chance to smile warmly at another person, making their day just a bit brighter? Or, even just hold the door open for a complete stranger?

Now of course, many people do help others, but sometimes, we miss the opportunities to do so because we’re too busy to notice. This is a lovely story about a little mouse who, feeling scared and threatened, simply wanted one of his friends to help him.

The mouse trap

A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife open a package. “What food might this contain?” the mouse wondered. He was devastated to discover it was a mousetrap.

Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning: “There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!”

The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said “Mr. Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by it.”

The mouse turned to the pig and told him “There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!” The pig sympathized, but said “I am so very sorry, Mr.Mouse, but there is nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured you are in my prayers.”

The mouse turned to the cow and said “There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!” The cow said “Wow, Mr. Mouse. I’m sorry for you, but it’s no skin off my nose.”

So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected, to face the farmer’s mousetrap alone.

That very night a sound was heard throughout the house – like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The farmer’s wife rushed to see what was caught. In the darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught. The snake bit the farmer’s wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital and she returned home with a fever.

Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup’s main ingredient. But his wife’s sickness continued, so friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock. To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig. The farmer’s wife did not get well; she died. So many! people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them.

The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness.

So, the next time you hear someone is facing a problem and think it doesn’t concern you, remember: when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk. We are all involved in this journey called life. We must keep an eye out for one another and make an extra effort to encourage one another. Each of us is a vital thread in another person’s tapestry.

– Author unknown

This is a very valuable  tale. The moral of the story is one we should all learn: we must, whenever humanly possible, help — help each other, help animals and, help nature. To be a positive, loving person, one must always have compassion. To be devoid of compassion is to be devoid of love.

 

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Create a Positive Reality with Words of Inspiration https://positivitypost.com/create-a-positive-reality-with-words-of-inspiration/ Fri, 22 Mar 2019 09:01:50 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14347 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/We are what we think we are. Its funny and just a bit scary, to think that we shape our own realities. I say scary because it’s very easy to forget that we think our way into our current state of being. Think happy…be happy. Think angry…be angry. Scary, right?

Some of the wisest positive thinkers have shared their words of wisdom with the world and reading them, you immediately think “gee, why didn’t I realize that sooner?” Their powerful words have inspired millions of people and I’d like to share some of the most impactful ones with our readers:

The Reverend Dr. Norman Vincent Peale:

“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.”

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

“Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.”

“Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.”

“The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.”

“I place this day, my life, my loved ones, my work in the Lord’s hands. There is no harm in the Lord’s hands, only good. Whatever happens, whatever results, if I am in the Lord’s hands it is the Lord’s will and it is good.”

“Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. Make all your friends feel there is something special in them. Look at the sunny side of everything. Think only the best, be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

Zig Ziglar:

“Fear has two meaning; ‘Forget Everything And Run’ or ‘Face Everything And Rise.’ The choice is yours.”

“True joy comes when you inspire, encourage, and guide someone else on a path that benefits him or her.”

“How you see the future is much more important than what happened in your past.”

“Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.”

“When you encourage others, you in the process are encouraged because you’re making a commitment and difference in that person’s life. Encouragement really does make a difference.”

“If you want to reach a goal, you must ‘see the reaching’ in your own mind before you actually arrive at your goal.”

Dale Carnegie:

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”

“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.”

“You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.”

“Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation, for your character is what you are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

“Our thoughts make us what we are.”

Roy T. Bennett:

“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”

“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”

“A random act of kindness, no matter how small, can make a tremendous impact on someone else’s life.”

“More smiling, less worrying. More compassion, less judgment. More blessed, less stressed. More love, less hate.”

These words really mean something. Remember them, particularly when you need some inspiration. We can create our own reality and if we think good and positive thoughts, that will indeed become our truth.

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Life Is About Progress, Not Perection https://positivitypost.com/life-is-about-progress-not-perection/ Mon, 18 Mar 2019 09:01:55 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14320 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Perfection isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. People seem to strive for perfection, which is kind of a self-defeating endeavor, don’t you think? I say that because rarely, if ever, is anything perfect. Perfection is an illusion and you really can’t chase an illusion.

Striving for perfection is a surefire way to become stressed, disillusioned and even defeated. Being a perfectionist often leads to procrastination because we want everything to be just right — everything needs to be “just so” and it’s never the right time to start, because the desire to have everything be perfect becomes an obsession.

The reality of life is that there is good and bad mixed into everything. Take the artist for example. If he or she wants to paint a beautiful landscape, but keeps waiting for the weather to be perfect, they’ll probably never get that painting done. Why? Because the weather will never be just perfect and moreover, even if by some slim chance it is perfect one day, it won’t stay that way.

Sometimes you just have to get going

Instead of seeking perfection, what we need to do is shift our focus onto progress. We need to desire a positive change above perfection. Rather than having an “all or nothing” mindset, we should strive to see the process for change as the learning experience. How we get there can be as important as where we arrive. In other words, just wanting positive change is a major accomplishment, but planning it out and starting, is as equally important — sometimes, we just need to start the journey, even if things don’t seem like they’re perfect to do so.

Progress, not perfection

A good friend of mind has learned a very valuable life lesson. He is filled with wonderful ideas and goals of how he wants to improve his life. His energy is boundless and his eagerness to grow as a human being is inspiring. But, most of the time, he never started the journey, because he always had a “reason” as to why it wasn’t the right time. Days of procrastination turned into weeks, then months and then years…along the way, he abandoned many ambitions and put new ones in their place. Unfortunately, they too got put on the back burner as he waited for every moment and detail to be just right.

Today, I’m happy to say, he has come to the realization that often, things will never be perfect and one simply has to make the best of the situation and just start — just get it going. His journey’s now are not about perfection, but about progress.

Here are 8 mind-sets and things you can do when you feel pressure to be perfect.

1. Remember that progress is a fluid and evolving experience and not just a process with a start and finish

2.  Perfection can be delusional and isn’t the same ideal for everyone. It can actually deceive us. Progress on the other hand is transparent, because we see action and accomplishment

3.  Perfection can be exhausting and frustrating, but progress invigorates and inspires.

4.  When you feel trepidation in taking that first step on the journey, take a step anyway.  Even a small step is progress and the rest usually flows more naturally once you take it.

5.  Set your main goals, but break them down into steps or chunks of progress.  As you achieve a particular goal, you see the progress you’re making and it helps to inspire you to the next chunk of objective(s).

6.  Remember that perfection is almost endless because one rarely arrives at perfection. Along the way, remember that the progress you make now, proves you can grow and improve in all areas of your life.

7.  Progress focuses you in on what’s working — the discoveries, the improvements, the rewards and the exhilaration of achievement prove that things are in fact working.

8.  Perfection shackles us with time because since nothing on this earth is actually perfect, it’s like being on a dysfunctional hamster wheel and our frustration binds us to a start and an end (an end we rarely reach). Progress though, doesn’t always have to be measured in time, because the journey of self-discovery and improvement can joyfully last a lifetime.

The beautiful thing about progress over perfection is that there is utter simplicity in improving, growing, developing and experiencing. Next time you find yourself too focused on perfection, make the conscious move toward progress instead.

“Perfectionism rarely begets perfection, or satisfaction – only disappointment.” – Ryan Holiday

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5 Ways to Stop Negative Thoughts and be Happier https://positivitypost.com/5-ways-to-stop-negative-thoughts-and-be-happier/ https://positivitypost.com/5-ways-to-stop-negative-thoughts-and-be-happier/#comments Mon, 11 Mar 2019 09:01:43 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14307 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/When something is bothering us, trying to get that negative thought out of our head is a lot easier said than done. In an ironic twist, when we intentionally try to stop that negative thought, it sometimes makes the negative thought pattern even worse.

Rehashing negative thoughts over and over is called rumination

Rumination is one of the similarities between anxiety and depression. Ruminating is simply repetitively going over a thought or a problem without completion. When people are depressed, the themes of rumination are typically about being inadequate or worthless. The repetition and the feelings of inadequacy raise anxiety and anxiety interferes with solving the problem. Then depression deepens. – Psychology Today

If left unresolved, rumination can cause a great deal of anxiety. Of course, sometimes going over different scenarios/outcomes can be a positive thing, because we’re trying to get control over the unknown and make ourselves feel better. However, if we just can’t let that bad thought go, it can be quite detrimental to our mental and physical health.

“It’s like a needle in a groove. As the groove gets deeper and deeper, the needle has a harder time getting out of the groove.” What’s more, rumination can actually make you more angry or upset than you were originally, because the issue becomes magnified in your mind.” Guy Winch, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries.

“Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.” – Robert H. Schuller

Fortunately, there are a some techniques that can help you stop dwelling on the negative thoughts and focus your mind back on the positive. Yes, it does take focus and effort, but it’s better than getting mired down in negativity, right?

1.  Tackle it and challenge it

Sometimes we feel a negative thought creeping in and rather than addressing it right away, we let it stew for a while. Then, when we least expect it, it bubble to the surface and “surprises” us, catching us off guard. The best way to handle it may be to confront it with purpose and figure out why you’re feeling this way.  Is the fear warranted or are you blowing it out of proportion? Write the negative thought down with pen and paper and look at it. Then, write down why it concerns you. Then look at that list of concerns. Then, write down the pros and cons and potential outcomes. Then look at those. The act of writing it out can often help to put things into proper perspective and it gives us a chance to get control over wandering negativity. Rather than letting it bounce around in our mind, getting it out into the light of day can be very beneficial.

2.  Distract yourself

A lot of times, negative thinking takes hold when we’re bored or feeling isolated. Find ways to distract yourself from the negative thoughts. This could be de-cluttering your home, reading a good book, going to the movies, hanging out with friends, painting a picture — something constructive that keeps your mind focused on other things can give you the breathing space to tackle the negative thought properly.

Read more on: The Displacement Theory

3.  Have a go-to support network

Having positive people who will support us is vital. Who is your support network? Who in your family and circle of friends can you count on to be there for you? Spend time with the positive people and they too will help you focus, analyze and distract.

4.  Don’t expect perfection

Life is complicated. No one has a perfect life, despite what you may believe. Accept that life is at times complicated and that nothing is ever perfect. Some negative thoughts stem from our desire to control everything and the reality is, sometimes we just can’t.

5.  Consider professional help

There is never any shame in getting the guidance of a qualified professional. Often, talking to a Therapist, family doctor or clergy person can help us get it all out in the open and their perspective can be refreshingly helpful in resolving the negative thought(s).

“The key to happiness – or that even more desired thing, calmness – lies not in always thinking happy thoughts. No. That is impossible. No mind on earth with any kind of intelligence could spend a lifetime enjoying only happy thoughts. They key is in accepting your thoughts, all of them, even the bad ones. Accept thoughts, but don’t become them.

Understand, for instance, that having a sad thought, even having a continual succession of sad thoughts, is not the same as being a sad person.”  ― Matt Haig

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Personal Finance Roundup XI https://positivitypost.com/personal-finance-roundup-xi/ Fri, 08 Mar 2019 10:01:08 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14252 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/This is our 11th personal finance roundup and we’re delighted that readers find this digest of articles so helpful. There are a lot of changes in personal finance right now and that’s in large part due to the new tax laws, so read on to learn more.

We’re confident you’ll find these great articles as helpful as we have!

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The Surprising Science of Happiness https://positivitypost.com/the-surprising-science-of-happiness/ Mon, 04 Mar 2019 10:01:12 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14256 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/I wonder what would happen if people spent less time searching for happiness and instead, simply embraced it. After all, happiness is really how we view life and what priorities we’ve set for ourselves. Chase the “dream” and you may find that happiness always seems to elude you.

“The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.” Norman Vincent Peale

During a very well-received TED talk, Dan Gilbert, the author of Stumbling on Happiness, challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our “psychological immune system” lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t go as planned. What does he mean by that? Take the time to watch this video to find out.

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” — Earl Nightingale

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