Positivity Post https://positivitypost.com News about Positive Thinking, simplifying life, reducing stress, inspiration, personal growth, personal finance and happiness. Sun, 31 May 2020 23:37:28 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.3.3 Is The World On Fire? https://positivitypost.com/is-the-world-on-fire/ https://positivitypost.com/is-the-world-on-fire/#respond Mon, 01 Jun 2020 09:01:21 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15825 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/No one could blame you if you looked at the state of the world right now and felt a sense of despair. As if the pandemic weren’t bad enough, now the United States is in the grips of public outrage. Protests are growing and quite literally, parts of the country are on fire.

The Covid-19 pandemic still hangs over us and sadly, despite the warnings and guidance from legitimate medical and scientific experts, we have Americans and indeed, people all across the world, protesting the stay-at-home orders. Not satisfied with protesting those lockdown orders, even as they’re being lifted, many of those protesters are now causing civil unrest over the fact that they need to wear masks in public and continue to social distance. It makes you wonder, are they ever happy?  Do they simply just “fight the system” just for the sake of it? Do they even care about others?

And as if all this wasn’t bad enough, we are now witnessing a large-scale social justice movement that has spilled out into our towns and cities. The catalyst was the murder of George Floyd, who was arrested in Minneapolis for allegedly using a counterfeit $20 bill in a convenience store. The latest development in that horrific story is that it wasn’t just Office Derek Chauvin who leaned his knee hard into George Floyd’s neck, but two of his fellow officers were also leaning on his body. As you know, George Floyed died as a result of this excessive force. The ensuing social outcry has quickly escalated and spread across the country, as many Americans protest another American citizen dying at the hands of the police — bear in mind, Mr. Floyd told them repeatedly he couldn’t breathe and Officer Chauvin refused to relent in his excessive and deadly force against this man.

Before I go on, I think its important to make something perfectly clear: I have a great deal of respect for our Police force and all first responders. However, never can we let that respect stand in the way of knowing right from wrong and those Police who engage in racial profiling or using excessive force against any American citizen, are most assuredly wrong. As a Christian, I will always try to fulfill our sacred obligation to cherish all life and to love and protect each other.

World on Fire

A friend of mine called me today and said “the whole world seems to be on fire.” He’s right, it does. The pandemic sill threatens us and now, we’re engulfed in increasingly violent civil unrest. I asked my friend how all of this made him feel and he said that he and his family feel alone and without any hope. Without any hope? That’s a very disturbing thing to hear, especially from a friend. We talked about it and he, like an increasing number of Americans, feel that our national leadership just doesn’t care. Our federally elected leadership failed to see the risk the Coronavirus posed, despite being forewarned. What’s worse, even when they knew how bad it was going to become, they downplayed it, with the President even calling it a “hoax” perpetuated by the opposing party. When great universities released studies and stats on the virus and made recommendations on how to best respond, president Trump, perhaps feeling the truth was somehow a bad thing, dismissed them as, and I quote “a political hit job.”

The United States, which is supposed to be the last sole remaining great superpower, was brought to its knees without a single shot being fired. We descended into chaos — we didn’t have the needed supplies and equipment, politicians contradicted medial experts and blamed administrations long out of office and worse, they gave no clear direction. The truth its, whether we like it or not, we were rudderless…plodding along with no cohesive strategy. I don’t know about you, but that to me is unacceptable.

To make matters even worse, we now have another Black American murdered at the hands of the very people who are sworn to protect and serve. His crime?  George Floyd was accused of attempting to pay with a counterfeit $20 bill. That’s it. He didn’t go on a shooting spree. He didn’t rob a bank and shoot hostages. He didn’t plot with foreign terrorists. Nope…he simply and allegedly, tried to use fake money. And he died for that?  This man was murdered by the police…for that?  Anyone with an iota of compassion should be completely outraged.

We Stand Alone

Once again, our national leadership, which is supposed to be guided by the presidency, responded not with words of healing, but by pouring gasoline on the fire. The protests started out as mostly calm and somewhat restrained…until of course, the president threatened to call in the army, have them all arrested and possibly even more alarming, told his loyal supporters to come encircle the White House and engage in what can best be described as combat against American citizens.

The president faced swift, universal criticism when the made a veiled threat against the protesters, tweeting the incendiary phrase “when the looting starts, the shooting starts.” Considering he had already threatened to break the constitution and call in the actual U.S. Army, is it any wonder why that tweet led to it being labeled by Twitter as inciting violence. Now of course, as we know factually, president Trump has done more threatening than healing. His focus was not so much on the protests that were engulfing many cities, but on his angry revenge against Twitter by enacting an executive order threatening all social media companies — and we wonder why people feel abandoned? The president of the United States is more concerned with getting revenge for what he considers an insult by Twitter, than he is at restoring peace and calm. In fact, he’d done anything but heal — whether like him or not, there is no denying that he has reacted more like a petulant dictator than the alleged “leader of the free world.”

Here are some of President Trump’s latest Tweets on this national tragedy:

They were not only totally professional, but very cool. I was inside, watched every move, and couldn’t have felt more safe. They let the “protesters” scream & rant as much as they wanted, but whenever someone got too frisky or out of line, they would quickly come down on them, hard – didn’t know what hit them. The front line was replaced with fresh agents, like magic. Big crowd, professionally organized, but nobody came close to breaching the fence. If they had they would have been greeted with the most vicious dogs, and most ominous weapons, I have ever seen. That’s when people would have been really badly hurt, at least. Many Secret Service agents just waiting for action. “We put the young ones on the front line, sir, they love it, and good practice.” As you saw last night, they were very cool & very professional. Never let it get out of hand. Thank you! On the bad side, the D.C. Mayor, @MurielBowser who is always looking for money & help, wouldn’t let the D.C. Police get involved. “Not their job.” Nice!

  • Get tough Democrat Mayors and Governors. These people are ANARCHISTS. Call in our National Guard NOW. The World is watching and laughing at you and Sleepy Joe. Is this what America wants? NO!!!
  • Law & Order in Philadelphia, NOW! They are looting stores. Call in our great National Guard like they FINALLY did (thank you President Trump) last night in Minneapolis. Is this what voters want with Sleepy Joe? All Dems!
  • The Lamestream Media is doing everything within their power to foment hatred and anarchy. As long as everybody understands what they are doing, that they are FAKE NEWS and truly bad people with a sick agenda, we can easily work through them to GREATNESS!

Adding more fuel to the fire, yesterday President Trump declared Antifa to be a terrorist organization, but despite being advised to do so, he failed to also declare the KKK and other organized white supremacist groups as the same. This refusal to do what is right is only making matters worse, especially since a majority of Americans feel that white supremacist’s groups are in fact, terrorists.

So, You Don’t Like Trump?

Do his Tweets and words make you feel safer or give you a sense of hope? Are they words of healing? Is he uniting, or is he dividing?  I guess your conclusion all depends on you, doesn’t it?  To assume I dislike him would be a mistake. As a Christian, I put my faith above politics in every instance. I don’t care whether you’re a Republican or Democrat — I care if you’re a reasonable, compassionate, intelligent leader. I want to know that you’re a healer, a uniter and a doer.

Instead, what millions of people are seeing, is a man who only cares about himself. Like the quintessential bully, he attacks and belittles. People are protesting because they’re angry that yet another American citizen has died because of police brutality and for Black Americans, that is something they feel happens far too often to Black men. Their anger, whether people want to admit it or not, is justified. Now you may not like the riots and destruction that is happening and neither do I. But perhaps we would not be seeing this escalation if we had national leadership that helped to cool things down, rather than intentionally heating them up.

Christians Are Told to Love One Another

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”  – John 13:34-35.

This to me is crystal clear. We are to always put love first and as we know, if we put love first, we’re putting kindness, compassion and understanding first as well, because they go hand-in-hand.

Proverbs 6:16-19: “There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.”

Romans 16:17: “I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them.”

Proverbs 26:20: “For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases.”

What we need right now is healing and that comes from understanding. People are scared and unsure. The pandemic still hangs over us and in the U.S. alone, over 100,000 people have died from the illness. People have lost their jobs and families are struggling. We see an escalation in tensions with other nations and now, we have terrible strife and civil unrest at home. We don’t need threats or cruel words, we need compassion and guidance. A good leader knows when to attack and when to repair and restore. Ask yourself…what kind of leader do we have?

Political ideology should never take priority over morals — to know right from wrong and to speak up when we see injustice. If you’re a Christian, then above all, you know we are taught to always be kind, compassionate, truthful, thankful and merciful. If a person is of another faith or perhaps someone who has no particular belief in a higher power at all, it is still incumbent upon them to be good people and to do the right thing.

For right now, I hope and pray that in this nation and around the world, we start to see some much needed healing. That healing can only come if we look ourselves in the mirror and we answer the question “am I truly a good person who wants to see justice, kindness and fairness prevail?”

Also read: In Some Cities, Police Officers Joined Protesters Marching Against Brutality

“Kindness is universal. Sometimes being kind allows others to see the goodness in humanity through you. Always be kinder than necessary.” Germany Kent

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Are You a “Me,” or a “We” Type of Person? https://positivitypost.com/are-you-a-me-or-a-we-type-of-person/ https://positivitypost.com/are-you-a-me-or-a-we-type-of-person/#respond Mon, 25 May 2020 09:01:16 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15763 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Mental health experts often talk about “the types of people in this world.” They have many classifications of people, such as: narcissist, passive aggressor, the anti-social, etc. But I’m thinking that maybe we keep forgetting about the two main types: the “me’s” and the “we’s.”

The world is in a great state of flux right now. We’re facing an unseen enemy and people are frightened because it can appear that we have more questions than answers right now — more unknowns than knowns. Its perfectly normal to be scared and perfectly normal for our emotions to run the gamut — fear, anger, sadness and hope. Some people though, are letting their fear get the better of them.

As government and scientific leaders try to manage the effects of the pandemic, we see progress being made, even if its only small wins. While scientists and medical experts try to find a treatment and a vaccine, they’ve proposed very sensible measures we should all take: wear a mask in public, social distance as much as possible, wash your hands regularly, avoid touching your face and avoid larger gatherings. All things considered, this isn’t really much to ask, is it?  As we observe Memorial Day, we should look at the sacrifices our fallen heroes made: they fought in violent wars and died on the battlefield, far from home. We should look at our elders and think about all the tough times they’ve lived through. We should look at the world around us and acknowledge that millions upon millions of people go to bed hungry every night. Children all across the world suffer — they don’t have clothes, clean water, a safe home and for them, daily life is a constant struggle. Yet all we’re being asked to do right now, is to adhere to some practical, simple, logical and non-invasive measures.

“Foolish, selfish people are always thinking of themselves and the result is always negative. Wise persons think of others, helping them as much as they can, and the result is happiness. Love and compassion are beneficial both for you and others. Through your kindness to others, your mind and heart will open to peace.”  – Dalai Lama

The Me vs. We people

The Me People:

For what ever reason, there are those in our world that cannot follow the simple guidelines set out by experts. They refuse to social distance. They continue to gather in crowds and they violently refuse to wear a mask. They become incensed at the suggestion they should follow these guidelines, declaring that it is their right to not follow them — “this is a case of government overreach and I have my rights and its my right to not wear a mask and no one is going to tell me where I can and cannot go!”  These are the “me!” people of our world. They see everything from their perspective only and they could not care less if they endanger the lives of others.

When someone says, “You are being selfish,” there is no doubt that you have just been criticized. The message from your critic is clear: You are paying too much attention to your own wants, needs, and well-being, and not enough attention to others. Selfish behavior is often described as immoral. A good person thinks of others first. This idea is instantiated in the oft-quoted “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35) and “Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country,” (JFK’s 1961 inaugural address).

According to some experts, selfish behavior is not only immoral, but it is also bad for your own psychological well-being. Renowned positive psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky has written an essay claiming that research supports the Chinese proverb that ends, “If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else.” – John A. Johnson Ph.D.  in Psychology Today

The “me” people of this world usually show their true colors when things get tough and they’re doing it again right now. These are the people who think only of themselves and they put their own selfish needs ahead of everyone else. The “me’s” of this world also fall into two categories: those who don’t see their own malevolent selfishness and say they’re “a good person” and falsely believe they are, even though their actions clearly say otherwise. And, those that know they’re selfish and make no pretense otherwise — they’re narcissists and proud of it. Personally, I don’t know which of the two I like less.

The “We” People:

The other type of people in our world are the givers and sharer’s. They’re the ones who, while inconvenienced and unhappy about the sacrifices they must make, do so anyway. They see the world not as a place of evil that we must conquer or defend against, but one of give-and-take — there is good and bad and we need to maximize the good and neutralize the bad. The “we’s” of our world see people more as equal and realize that we’re all just trying to get by. As it relates to the pandemic, the “we’s” of the world want to be safe and rightfully realize that the best way to do that, is for everyone to follow the few, simple guidelines: wear a mask in public, social distance as much as possible, wash your hands regularly, avoid touching your face and avoid larger gatherings. The “we’s” realize that its not too much to ask, its most likely only a temporary inconvenience and at the end of the day, if we all follow these guidelines, things will go back to normal much sooner and with more success.

The news right now is covering a lot of stories about people who are violently protesting stay-at-home and mask orders. We see them yelling, defying, menacing and threatening. Why? Is it paranoia? Do they really think that wearing a mask is violating their rights? How is avoiding large gatherings in the short-term, in any way an attack on our liberties? Its not some new forever law…its just something we all need to do during this uncertain time.

The “me” and “we” people of our world aren’t new. Sadly though, the “me’s” tend to emerge like locusts when there’s a wide-spread threat — perhaps they falsely believe it’s “every man for himself?” The “me’s” of this world are a very serious threat to peace, prosperity and happiness. They are the ones who will never be there for you. They don’t see the earth and the life that lives here as something of beauty, but more as a threat to their selfish needs and wants. On the other side of the coin, the “we’s” of our world, while not perfect, at least make the effort to share, care and try…they sacrifice for the greater good.

“Generally speaking, the most miserable people I know are those who are obsessed with themselves; the happiest people I know are those who lose themselves in the service of others…By and large, I have come to see that if we complain about life, it is because we are thinking only of ourselves.”  – Gordon B. Hinckley

I hope and pray this crisis will soon pass. I will admit that this global emergency has brought out both the worst in people and the best in people. The people who have shown their true nature to be one of selfishness and self-indulgence, have worried me greatly.  How will we face the next challenge if so many people only care about themselves? But what has given me hope are the “we’s” of this world, because they have proven to be the ones carrying the whole load — the givers, the doers, the creators, the sharers… its the people who care about “we” rather than just “me” that will help to sustain this world. Lets work together to raise up the caring and the kind among us, so that we may negate the evil of the takers and destroyers of our world.

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.       – Galatians 6:2

And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased. – Hebrews 13:16

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Its Time to Wake Up https://positivitypost.com/its-time-to-wake-up/ Mon, 18 May 2020 09:01:18 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15744 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/The coronavirus pandemic has had an extraordinary effect on our daily lives. From at-home work and school, to lonely days of isolation and a run on basic necessities, the impacts are profound. One effect that a growing number of people are seeing, is a change in faith.

While some people feel that their faith has been tested and some sadly may have even lost a bit of their faith because of this tribulation, many are seeing it as much more — people of many differing faiths are seeing this as a divine message.

The virus has brought entire economies almost to a standstill. People are asking “when will this be over…when can we get back to normal?”  And while this horrible virus has shaken us to our core, many say that we need to learn from this — that this is indeed a wakeup call that we ignore at our peril.

In a recent poll by the University of Chicago Divinity School and The Associated Press-NORC Center for Public Affairs Research, about 25% of Americans say their faith has gotten stronger because of the pandemic:

About a quarter of Americans say their faith or spirituality has strengthened because of the outbreak, and only 1% say it’s weakened. A majority who believe in God feel, because of the outbreak, that God is telling humanity to change how it is living and that God is protecting them from being infected.

Further, the poll found that: “63% of those who believe in God say they feel God is telling humanity to change the way we are living, and 55% feel God will protect them from being infected.”

– Source: How Faith Shapes Feelings About the Coronavirus Outbreak, ​A new UChicago Divinity School/AP-NORC Poll

See the reports of their findings here and here

Some people of faith may associate this pandemic with a punishment, so fear may be the catalyst to their desire to change and to see change. Most I feel however, see it as more of a “Hey! Stop it…you’re on the wrong path!”  It’s that jolting wakeup call that is meant to bring us back to reality, because let’s be honest, this world was literally spinning out of control.

The Chaos of the Modern World

We had unbridled greed, heinous crimes, cruelty to each other and to animals, we had people destroying nature, polluting, dumping, killing. We had political divides that were so bad, families were being torn apart. We had a “me, me, me!” mentality and selfishness had become commonplace. Yes, our world is (was?) that bad and even worse.

The Change We Need

This wakeup call is long overdue. Mankind is not meant to be greedy, cruel and selfish. What we are meant to be, is kind, caring, loving, generous and positive. People of faith are, I believe, seeing this “event” as that jarring jolt people occasionally need…that call back to the way things are supposed to be. I believe even people who have no religious faith, are seeing this tribulation as a cosmic smack in the face…that kick in the pants, as it were, to get us back on track.

I hope and pray that this pandemic passes soon and that we are able to return to life — not life in the way we used to live it — abusing it and taking it for granted, but life in the sense of some normalcy. In that returned normalcy, I pray that people all across the world remember this difficult time and use that memory as a lesson and motivator for change.

It’s my hope that we go back to civility and that we respect nature and one another. It’s my hope that we appreciate life more and that we realize that love, compassion, gratitude and generosity are the important things in life. I pray that families come together, leaving their cell phones and tablets in a drawer and instead of living life online, live it out in the real world — appreciating the beauty of nature and realizing that earth is our home and it’s up to us to protect it. And as a Christian, I pray that once this is over, we return to faith — to having true, meaningful faith that guides our every move in life…a real faith that enables us to put aside our worst parts, to make more room for the best parts.

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A Few Surprising Benefits of Keeping a Journal https://positivitypost.com/a-few-surprising-benefits-of-keeping-a-journal/ https://positivitypost.com/a-few-surprising-benefits-of-keeping-a-journal/#comments Mon, 11 May 2020 09:01:49 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15729 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/How often have you thought about starting a journal, only to put it off time and again? There always seems to be a reason to start it tomorrow, next week or even next month. But, with all this down time, maybe now is the right time to finally start that journal.

When you think of  keeping a journal, you might picture a young girl giggling as she writes “dear diary…” but that’s a common misperception. Journaling has been popular for hundreds of years and it really has little to do with society’s perception of keeping a diary.

Why?

Why is journaling different? Well it is and it isn’t. Journaling is not exclusively for girls or teens. Journaling is really for anyone who needs an outlet for their thoughts — its a cathartic form of self-expression that can help us to sort out and better understand our thoughts and feelings.

What are the benefits of journaling?

Journaling, sometimes associated with a stream of consciousness writing, uncovers thoughts, ideas, feelings and passions you perhaps didn’t even know you had. It helps us to take the thoughts swirling around our head and get them out in the open — this enables us to read them and give them the attention they need. It helps us to figure out what’s really important, vs. what are just random thoughts clinking around.

If you’re sitting on the fence, these benefits of journaling may help to convince you that the time to start that journal is now:

1.  It keeps your thoughts organized.
Journals help us to organize our thoughts on our daily experiences — events, feelings, opinions and observations. How often do you lay in bed at night re-hashing your thoughts? That’s because you need an outlet to get them out into the light…that is why a journal helps you to keep your thoughts more organized.

2.  It helps with being mindful.
Mindfulness is gaining in popularity. Being mindful, or, “in the moment,” is directly tied to happiness and peace in our life. When we keep our mind more on the moment and less stuck in the past or stressing about the future, it helps us to actively engage with our thoughts — basically, it helps us to deal with what we have going on now, rather than ruminating on the past or obsessing about the future. A journal is an ideal tool to help us do this.

3. It relieves stress.
Writing down our feelings helps us to clear out the attic, as it were. Our anxieties and stresses stay bottled up inside, even if we have someone to talk to. With a journal, we’re able to free-style write what we’re feeling because its just us — we can be ourselves and just let it all pour out. People are often hesitant to invest the time in a journal, but once they do, they see what a great stress reducer it can be.

4.  It improves our emotional intelligence
Emotional Intelligence is basically our ability to recognize and manage our emotions. For example, when faced with a difficult person or situation at work, having a high EI (emotional intelligence) means that before we react and perhaps lash out, we recognize that we’re feeling something, we can quickly figure out why we’re feeling that way and before we react, we can temper our “reaction” appropriately. It really helps us to not only manage our own emotions, but it helps us with our intuitive emotions, so we become more empathetic to what others are feeling as well. A journal is a fantastic tool in strengthening emotional intelligence because the act of writing out our thoughts and feelings means we can better understand them and thus, be more in control.

Learn more about Emotional Intelligence

5.  It helps with healing.
Unresolved feelings that clink around our sub-conscious bubble up to the top now and then. We may have had an argument with a friend and we think we’re “over it,” but we keep dwelling on it. That dwelling hinders healing. Journaling can help us to get it all out and we can write out what we really feel/think about that argument and through that process, we get our emotions in check and we’re more apt to really let it go, so true healing can occur.

6.  It helps with communication.
What we write in our journal and how we write it, is purely personal. Journaling can really benefit our verbal communications as well as written. If we need to say something to someone, or we have a school or work project that requires careful thought, writing about it in our journal can help us take our thoughts, put them on paper, organize them and use that to help us prep for how we can best verbalize them.

7.  It helps with creativity.
You know that idea you have for writing a book? How about that recipe you want to create? Journaling is a great way to get our creative juices flowing. The more we brainstorm and write, the more we feel relief and freedom. We start to use more complex words in our journal, we improve our writing and we increase our scope of thinking. Journaling is one of the best ways to get our creativity up and out of our heads and into action…exactly where it belongs.

There are many more benefits to journaling, so these are just a few. The best way to start is to…well, start!  Give it a try and stick to it. Try to do it daily if you can and remember, it’s your journal, so there are no firm rules — what ever works for you, is what is best for you.

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So, What’s In Your Cup? https://positivitypost.com/so-whats-in-your-cup/ Mon, 04 May 2020 09:01:40 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15712 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/I recently came across a wonderful analogy that provided a great teaching lesson. This analogy once again came my way via Facebook and I think it do so for a reason — life is what we make of it…how we perceive it and how we react to it.

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” — Mahatma Gandhi

Here is the story of the cup….

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and accidentally bumps you and shakes your arm, making you spill coffee everywhere.

Why did you spill the coffee?

“Because someone bumped into me!”

Wrong answer.

You spilled the coffee because coffee was in the cup.

Had there been tea in your cup, you would have spilled tea.

Whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out.

Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you, whatever is inside of you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled.

So each of us has to ask ourselves….. “what’s in my cup?”

When life gets bumpy, what spills over?

Joy, gratefulness, peace, and humility?

Or…anger, bitterness, harsh words, and reactions?

Life provides the cup, but you choose how to fill it.

Today, let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness, and love!

It’s all about choice and awareness of that choice. If we’re in a negative place and the coffee spills, we will outwardly react in a negative way, probably yelling and cursing a bit. If however, we’re aware that we’re in a negative place, such as being in a bad mood, stressed, etc., we can consciously control how we react — what good will it do to lash out…it’s just some spilled coffee.

However, if we are consciously focused on being more positive and we are acutely aware of our desire to be happier, we are forging a life on the choice to be happy and positive. Thus, if we spill the coffee, we react differently because we see the brighter side and we realize that in the overall scheme of things, it really doesn’t matter.

That for me is the lesson of this story: that each day we have a choice to be happy or at least to be striving for peace and happiness, or, we can be in a negative place…in which case, we’re allowing ourselves to be unhappy, despite knowing we had the choice to be positive and in a state of harmony.

“Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. Make all your friends feel there is something special in them. Look at the sunny side of everything. Think only the best, be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give everyone a smile. Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.” Norman Vincent Peale

 

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Use Your Words as a Healing Power and Not as a Weapon https://positivitypost.com/use-your-words-as-a-healing-power-and-not-as-a-weapon/ Mon, 27 Apr 2020 09:01:37 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15696 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Isn’t it amazing how just a few kind and gentle words can make a huge difference in someone’s life?  The power of our words to hurt or heal is incredible and we should really give more thought to what we say, since they wield such incredible power.

I read a story this afternoon and it really gave me pause to think — with just a few words, we can make a positive impact on another person. My simple “hi, so nice to see you, how are you today?” could truly make all the difference in the world to someone feeling unloved and lonely. Saying “you look so beautiful!” to an acquaintance could give them that morale booster they so desperately needed. The possibility for doing good with our words is almost endless.

“Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel Wolchin

In a world in which we see so many people tearing down, rather than building up, we should use our words to always encourage, enliven and uplift. I love the story of “The Blue Ribbon” because it helps to show how kindness in our words and actions can have very powerful and positive results.

The Blue Ribbon:

A teacher in New York decided to honor each of her high school seniors for the difference they made in her life. She presented each of them with a Blue Ribbon imprinted with gold letters which read, “Who I Am Makes A Difference.” She told the class how each student made a difference to her and the class. Afterwards, the teacher decided to do a class project to see what kind of impact acknowledgment would have on their community. She then gave each of the students three more ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread this Blue Ribbon ceremony. They were to follow up on the results, see who honored whom and report back to the class the following week.

One of the students honored a junior executive in a nearby company for helping him with his career planning. The student gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt just over his heart. Then the boy gave him two extra ribbons, explained their class project on acknowledgement and enlisted the executive’s help. Later that day the junior executive went to his boss and told him that he deeply admired him for being a creative genius. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, “Well, sure.” After placing the ribbon above his boss’ heart, he asked him to support the efforts of the class project and pass on the extra ribbon.

That night the grouchy boss went home to his 14-year-old son and sat him down. He said, “The most incredible thing happened to me today. I was in my office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me and gave me this blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine, he thinks I’m a creative genius. Then he put this Blue Ribbon that says ‘Who I Am Makes A Difference’ on my jacket above my heart. Next he gave me an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honor with this ribbon and I thought about you, son. I want to honor you. My days are really hectic and when I come home I don’t pay a lot of attention to you. Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school or for your bedroom being a mess. But somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life. You’re a great kid and I love you!”

The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn’t stop crying. His whole body shook. He walked over to a drawer, pulled out a gun, stared at his father and, through his tears said, “I was planning on committing suicide tomorrow, Dad, because I didn’t think you loved me. Now I don’t need to.”

Author: Helice “Sparky” Bridges

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The last sentence in that wonderful story is jolting, isn’t it? But this can happen. Sometimes, we say just the right thing to the right person at the right time and it makes all the difference in the world. That is why we should all make the conscious effort to choose our words carefully and to always be mindful to speak healing, positive, kind and uplifting words as often as we can.

“Your words have power. Speak words that are kind, loving, positive, uplifting, encouraging, and life-giving.” – Unknown

“Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” -Yehuda Berg

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Who is to Blame for this Pandemic? https://positivitypost.com/who-is-to-blame-for-this-pandemic/ Mon, 20 Apr 2020 09:01:49 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15671 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/The blame game is in full swing and for sure, there is a lot of blame to go around. And maybe blame isn’t the even the right word? Maybe more than looking for someone to blame, we need to be looking at what we can learn from this crisis and collectively, looking in the mirror.

A lot of folks are asking questions right now — tough questions that in reality, we shouldn’t have to be asking. But read any comment section of a news article, or spend some time on social media, and you see people asking questions like:

“How were we so unprepared?”

“Why doesn’t this country have a national emergency plan?”

“Why are we having trouble getting PPE?”

“Why are the stores all sold out of___________?” (pretty much everything we need!)

“Why are we so reliant on things made in other countries?”

“Why isn’t the federal government doing more?”

I could go on and on, but you get the picture. And these questions need to be asked, but again, we shouldn’t have to be asking them, because the world really should have been better prepared. There have been global pandemics before and the scientific and medical communities have been warning of the consequences of being unprepared when the next one hit — unfortunately, governments seem to have ignored their warnings.

But why are we so unprepared? Why don’t the U.S. and other countries have a national emergency plan in place? Why are consumers struggling to get supplies and their own PPE and just as important, why isn’t the government addressing these shortages?  Lets face it, when the day comes that we can venture back outside, we’re all going to need: masks, home cleaning/sanitizing agents and hand sanitizers, right? We need to be prepared and we need to be able to clean our homes and our hands properly. So why can’t we get any?

Why are we held hostage by the global supply chain?  If an American company is manufacturing its products overseas, why are we dependent on getting them from China…they are our products after all, because China is basically assembling them.

I’ve been giving this a lot of thought and I want to share my views on this, because I do believe millions of people share those views. In no particular order of importance, here is what I think:

– National emergency plans: we need a national emergency protocol(s) that can be quickly enacted and disseminated. This emergency plan(s) needs to be well-thought out, with input from experts. For example:

A national emergency plan is developed in the event of a pandemic and that plan is sent out to every person or organization that would be vital, such as: Doctors, retail establishments, Food suppliers/retailers, transportation services, local governments, etc. The plan would give specific guidelines to anyone and everyone who would play a key role during the crisis, so they would know precisely what to do.

Grocery stores and online retailers like Amazon for example, may be given the following directions:

– immediately implement buying limits on products that will be needed by the people, such as paper products, cleaning supplies, hand sanitizers, etc.

– immediately put in place social distancing measures and number of people allowed in at one time, to avoid crowding in the stores

– within 2 weeks, ramp up home delivery capabilities to max capacity

The national emergency plan would give the country a way to immediately respond and even though it may evolve, it would set in motion a semblance of order and organization. The plan should also be easily accessible to every private and government organization that needs it.

– Task force: Who is responsible for what? The federal government needs to have a team already in place. Why is the federal government so disorganized? The faces and names change daily — its as if no one is really in charge. We cannot have that. They need to know who leads and what they lead on. The task force needs to be organized and ready to go, knowing who will get what, who will speak, who will deal with the news media, etc. We don’t have this right now, even though that mechanism had once been in place. What happened to it?

– National security: I think its totally unacceptable that so much is made abroad. We absolutely must bring key industries back to our shores. Never again should we be unprepared because we let greedy corporations make vital products and supplies in a foreign country, just so they could make more money. The government could, as one example:

– determine what industries are vital to national security and defense and require that U.S. companies must either make 100% of those goods here, or at the very least, require that say, 30% is made in the U.S, with the understanding that in a national emergency, they must have the ability to scale up full production here within a certain time-frame.

Related: U.S. officials worried about Chinese control of American drug supply

– Facts: Facts are really lacking right now. Its either that they’re lacking, or they’re getting lost amongst all the clutter of lies and half-truths. Social media is rife with false claims and the mainstream media is also guilty of making matters worse. The national emergency plan needs to have clearly defined roles for who will deal with the press and every American should know who speaks with authority. Right now, due to problems at the federal level, no one knows who to listen to. With a strategic plan in place, at least we could go to authorized sources and have some degree of confidence that what we’re reading is factual

I’m not an expert, so these are my views, but ones that are clearly shared by many Americans. Intelligence reports suggest this virus was not intentionally released, so there may be no one to blame for it, per se. But we can certainly demand answers as to why we were so unprepared. And that brings me to my next objective…

– Action: Now is the time to write or call your elected representative and demand answers. We need to know why we were so unprepared, why there are no national emergency plans, why the American people can’t get the basic things they need to defend against the virus, why we’re so reliant on foreign countries to get American products…

Please take some time and send that email or letter to our political leaders. When you see an opportunity to ask these questions online, please do so. We can’t allow ourselves to “forget all about it” once this passes, because we will have learned nothing. I hope you’ll share this post and I urge you to demand answers from our government.

“By seeking and blundering we learn.” ―  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Positive Affirmations to Help During This Difficult Time https://positivitypost.com/positive-affirmations-to-help-during-this-difficult-time/ Mon, 13 Apr 2020 09:01:07 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15655 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Do positive affirmations work? Can they help us to be more focused and optimistic in our daily life? The answer is a resounding “yes!” to both of those questions. During this difficult time, positive affirmations are a particularly powerful tool.

What are affirmations?
Affirmations are positive statements that reinforce the optimistic thoughts and attitudes we need in our life. Positive affirmations are typically said in the present tense first person (e.g. I, me, myself, etc.) and some believe they’re most effective if you can say them in front of a mirror. Positive affirmations really do work and they can do wonders for motivating us and getting our thoughts oriented toward the positive — they’re a vital factor in “the law of attraction,” in which we shape our thoughts and mind-set to attract good things to our life.

“When you expect the best you release a magnetic force in your mind which by a law of attraction tends to bring the best to you.”  ― Norman Vincent Peale

The primary reason you want to use positive affirmations in the morning is because your mind is just coming back into alert mode and it’s at this critical time that we want to center our mind-set on the good and not the bad. So, focusing your mind and thought process onto the positive is vitally important in the morning and positive affirmations can help to do just that.

After you open your eyes each morning, before doing anything, consciously affirm positive things/thoughts — spend 1-2 minutes repeating one, or even a few affirmations to yourself or, out loud in front of the mirror if that’s possible. Here are some you can try and once you’re used to using affirmations, you can of course create your own:

1.  “Today, I will be happy, confident and secure.”

2.  “I am feeling positive, healthy and strong today.”

3.  “Today is a good day! I’m happy, strong and safe!”

4.  “On this day, I will experience this beautiful life with happiness in my heart.”

5.  “Feeling confident, secure and strong, is a normal part of my life and I have all that I need to make this a great day.”

6.  “I can handle the stress of the times. My heart is filled with love and my faith sustains me.”

7.  “I reject all negative feelings and I consciously accept all that is good in life.”

8.  “I will not let stress get me down. I’m in control of my life and I choose peace and happiness.”

9.  “I will be calm and in control of my feelings. I greet this day with serenity in my mind and body.”

10. “Thank you! I am filled with love, gratitude and kindness for another day on this earth.”

11. “I have the power and ability to create all the peace and resiliency I desire.”

12. “I’m in control of my life and I reject negative beliefs that have stood in the way of my happiness.”

13. “I am courageous and I am strong. We will get through this storm and we’ll be all the better for it!”

14. “My life is good and every day, I discover new and interesting paths to pursue.”

15. “Today, I choose to think positively and I create an amazing and happy life for myself.”

16. “I am a strong, confident person and I consciously attract success and happiness.”

17. “I banish all self-doubt from my mind and I embrace hope, optimism and compassion.”

18. “Today, I abandon all of my old, negative habits and passionately take up new and positive ones in their place.”

19. “My thoughts do not control me — I control my thoughts. Today, my thoughts will be free, happy and positive.”

20. “Good morning world! I’m here and I’m happy and I will share that happiness with everyone I meet.”

“Positive thinking is powerful thinking. If you want happiness, fulfillment, success and inner peace, start thinking you have the power to achieve those things. Focus on the bright side of life and expect positive results.”  ― Germany Kent

Positive affirmations are meant to bolster our optimistic mind-set. While we’re all struggling with the plight of the world right now, we can still be positive thinkers. Try these or your own positive affirmations to help strengthen and uplift you.

“You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.” ― Brian Tracy

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The Great Awakening https://positivitypost.com/the-great-awakening/ Mon, 06 Apr 2020 09:01:36 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15619 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/We’re living through a very stressful time. Thank you Captain Obvious, right? But even though we’re all concerned and unsure, we should never lose sight of the fact that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It might seem like a long tunnel, but the light is there all the same.

They say that we can always learn something and grow from situations like this and even though it may be tough to see that while we’re living through it, I do think its true.

“It is only in our darkest hours that we may discover the true strength of the brilliant light within ourselves that can never, ever, be dimmed.” — Doe Zantamata

What Can We Possibly Learn from a Pandemic?

We can all learn a lot from this global health crisis. For one, we can hopefully learn from our mistakes. Why were we so caught off guard? Why didn’t we act sooner? Why didn’t we have the stockpile of vital supplies? There are many questions we can and should be asking and more importantly, that we demand be answered. While the average person may not have the answers to those questions, we can ask ourselves: “Who am I? What do I stand for? Am I really a good person? How can I live a more fulfilling, positive life?”  These are the questions we should all be asking ourselves and the answers we seek may make us uncomfortable. Perhaps some will realize that they weren’t thriving in life, but had been merely surviving — sort of muddling along. Some may realize that their priorities were all wrong — centered on selfishness and greed.

“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.” — Og Mandino

Life Had Become Manic

Lets be frank, life had become disturbingly surreal. Mankind was obsessed with self: more stuff, more fame, more wealth, more junk, more power…more of the very things that never bring true happiness. We surfed the web, taking selfie after selfie, posting, tweeting, texting, talking…manically racing around, but never feeling accomplished or good. We were killing the planet…yes, factually, we have been. We hunted innocent animals, we let petty politics consume us and we vilified those different from ourselves. We put obscenely paid actors and athletes on a pedestal, while we tore down the real heroes of this world. We preached and judged and we condemned without thought. Face it, we were on a downward spiral and deep down, we know that to be true.

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” — Mother Teresa

The Time Has Come

This tribulation will pass. During this trial however, let us all do deep soul-searching. Let us open our hearts and our minds and look within. This is the time for a great awakening — a re-birth of sorts. Life is precious and no one man is better than the next. No animal deserves to be harmed. Nature deserves our respect and care. This earth is our home and everyone who lives on this rock has as much right to be here as you or I. We are not meant to conquer and pillage like ancient Vikings…we are meant to live in peace and harmony and that is what we should strive to do. Our priorities shouldn’t be to spend hours on vacuous social media sites or sitting to watch some ridiculous “reality” TV show. Our priority should be to live a good, positive and productive life. Our priority should be to treat others how we our self wish to be treated.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”  — Maya Angelou

Let Love Rule

Love is the greatest power we have. If we finally let that love flow freely, can you imagine how quickly our world would be healed? We are seeing so much giving and kindness during this crisis and that is what we need to expand on — to keep that after this is all over and get rid of the hubris, greed and anger. I pray that what we learn from all of this is that we need to slow down a bit. Its my hope that we have an epiphany and wake up to the truth that life should be savored, preserved and celebrated and that includes animals and nature.

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” — Albert Einstein

For those among us who haven’t yet done some soul-searching, use this time to try. Look inside and be prepared to answer honestly: “Am I a good person? Am I living the life I want for myself and my family? Am I contributing something of real value to this world? Am I kind? Am I generous? Am I fair?”

“Confidence thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.”  — Franklin D. Roosevelt

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. — 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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Hope Should Always Be Our Go To Option https://positivitypost.com/hope-should-always-be-our-go-to-option/ Mon, 23 Mar 2020 09:01:03 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15596 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/“Hope springs eternal.” That is a definite truism. In these exceptionally stressful and challenging times, hope must never leave us — we should never abandon it. It is precisely at times like this, that hope and faith can be our only personal power.

“Hope is a beautiful thing. It gives us peace and strength, and keeps us going when all seems lost. Accepting what you cannot change doesn’t mean you have given up on hope. It just means you have to focus your hope on more humanely tangible and attainable goals.”  – Julie Donner Andersen

What is hope?

Hope can be big, or it can be small. No where is it written that hope needs to be bigger than life. In fact, sometimes hope is just a small thought in our mind…a wish or desire that we keep alive in our heart. But hope can also be huge — it can be a burning desire for something good that seems to fill our every thought and sustains us during the most challenging of times.

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”  – Eleanor Roosevelt

Today, perhaps more than ever, we need to have hope. We’re all scared and the uncertainty has enveloped us all. This fear and uneasiness should be uniting us, but unfortunately, the deep political rift that grips the land is not letting that soothing unity happen. The often ambiguous and rudderless “leadership” we’re seeing from the top is not helping matters either. That has to stop. We need to come together and let hope and faith be the power that sustains us and propels us forward. That hope and faith starts within each of us and we’re obliged to let that feeling of hope radiate outward, so that we’re infusing that positivity into others.

“People are basically the same the world over. Everybody wants the same things – to be happy, to be healthy, to be at least reasonably prosperous, and to be secure. They want friends, peace of mind, good family relationships, and hope that tomorrow is going to be even better than today.”  – Zig Ziglar

If we can’t right now come together physically, let us all commit to doing so spiritually – to share the same feelings of faith and hope and the same desires for peace, harmony and goodness. Think good thoughts. Share a smile with everyone you see, because even at 6 feet apart, that smile’s power can close the gap. Love one another and wish them the best. If you’re a person of faith, retreat into that faith for a boost of peace and joy. Yes, its tough right now, but we will get through this. Our elders have seen so much and they remind us that if they could make it through the calamities they’ve survived, so will we.

To help inspire your hope, here are some beautiful quotes from Cornelia “Corrie” ten Boom: 

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”

“Do you know what hurts so very much? It’s love. Love is the strongest force in the world, and when it is blocked that means pain. There are two things we can do when this happens. We can kill that love so that it stops hurting. But then of course part of us dies, too. Or we can ask God to open up another route for that love to travel.”

“Any concern too small to be turned into a prayer is too small to be made into a burden.”

“Worry is like a rocking chair: it keeps you moving but doesn’t get you anywhere.”

“Memories are the key not to the past, but to the future. I know that the experiences of our lives, when we let God use them, become the mysterious and perfect preparation for the work He will give us to do.”

“Happiness isn’t something that depends on our surroundings; it’s something we make inside ourselves.”

“Faith is like radar that sees through the fog—to the reality of things at a distance that the human eye cannot see.”

No matter how dark things seem, they will get better. There is always light at the end of the tunnel and no matter how long that tunnel seems, the light is there all the same. Keep hope and faith alive in your hearts and trust that with universal hope, we’ll get to the end of that dark tunnel sooner than later.

“Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.”  – Norman Vincent Peale

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