Positivity Post https://positivitypost.com News about Positive Thinking, simplifying life, reducing stress, inspiration, personal growth, personal finance and happiness. Sun, 23 Feb 2020 22:41:06 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.3.2 Lasting Personal Growth is Easier Than We Think https://positivitypost.com/lasting-personal-growth-is-easier-than-we-think/ Mon, 24 Feb 2020 10:01:29 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15507 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/I’ve been making a concerted effort to be more conscious of the quotes and pearls of wisdom I read lately. I’ve been trying to really read and understand them…to let them sink in to my psyche. For too long, I would read wise words and appreciate them, but I wasn’t learning from them. I needed to change that.

The fact I wasn’t learning from them was my own fault. I was failing to take them in and really feel and understand the words so that they made me a better person.

In my effort to become a better person, I’ve found some amazing quotes/pearls of wisdom this week that I’ve read many times over so that their deeper meaning sinks in and becomes a part of my conscious thinking.

Consider these wonderfully inspiring words and try reading them many times over — let them sink in and gain a good understanding of what they mean.

Love
“Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without.” – James Dobson

Friendship & Relationships
“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.” – Thomas Moore

“What is most valuable is not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life”. – Unknown

Kindness
“Don’t hurt anyone. It only takes a few seconds to hurt people you love, and it can take years to heal.” – Nanu Thakuri

Trust
“Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.” – Unknown

Live for Today
“There are two eternities that can really break you down, yesterday and tomorrow. One is gone and the other doesn’t exist yet, so live today.” – Unkown

7 Laws of Self Awareness

1. You are what you think.
2. You are what you desire.
3. You are what you seek.
4. You are what you believe.
5. You are what you value.
6. You are what you do.
7. You are what you master.”
Matshona Dhliwayo

Simple, but yet so deep. I love these quotes because they are wise and they are true. Like repeating a positive mantra to help make it a reality, these words of wisdom are a worthy guide to self-development and leading our daily life. Which ones do you like the best?

 

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Powerful Byron Katie Quotes to Uplift You https://positivitypost.com/powerful-byron-katie-quotes-to-uplift-you/ Mon, 17 Feb 2020 10:01:17 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15193 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/We’ve probably all heard the expression “life is what you make it.” We may have heard it many times before, but how often do we actually believe it and more importantly, take it to heart and act on it? Read on to learn more…

So many of us are on what seems like a never ending journey to find peace, happiness and personal fulfillment. We look and we read and we try all sorts of fads and techniques, only to come full circle back to where we started. What if that’s because we keep forgetting that life is in fact, what we make it?

I recently discovered a quote from author Byron Katie and her words made complete sense. After reading just one of her quotes, I was like “Yes! That’s it…she’s got it!” Encouraged by that one quote, I searched for more and sure enough, each quote invigorated me and really made me think long and hard about relationships, love, happiness and so much more.

I’m happy to share some of those Katie Byron quotes with our readers and I’m confident you’ll find them to be as inspiring as I have. From Byron Katie:

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”

“Since the beginning of time, people have been trying to change the world so that they can be happy. This hasn’t ever worked, because it approaches the problem backward. What The Work gives us is a way to change the projector—mind—rather than the projected. It’s like when there’s a piece of lint on a projector’s lens. We think there’s a flaw on the screen, and we try to change this person and that person, whomever the flaw appears on next. But it’s futile to try to change the projected images. Once we realize where the lint is, we can clear the lens itself. This is the end of suffering, and the beginning of a little joy in paradise.”

“Isn’t it marvelous to discover that you’re the one you’ve been waiting for? That you are your own freedom?”

“The world is your perception of it. Inside and outside always match – they’re reflections of each other. The world is a mirror image of your mind.”

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them”

“Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity. There’s a natural balance in things. If you go too far to one extreme, life kindly brings you back toward the center. What goes up must come down, and what comes down must go up. Up and down are different aspects of the same thing. So are inside and outside. Most people think that the world is outside them. They live life backward, running after security and approval, as if by making enough money or getting enough praise they could be happy once and for all. But nothing outside us can give us what we’re really looking for. I do my work and don’t even need to step back from it, because it never belonged to me in the first place. Nothing belongs to me. Everything comes and goes. Serenity is an open door.”

“How do you react when you think you need people’s love? Do you become a slave for their approval? Do you live an inauthentic life because you can’t bear the thought that they might disapprove of you? Do you try to figure out how they would like you to be, and then try to become that, like a chameleon? In fact, you never really get their love. You turn into someone you aren’t, and then when they say “I love you,” you can’t believe it, because they’re loving a facade. They’re loving someone who doesn’t even exist, the person you’re pretending to be. It’s difficult to seek other people’s love. It’s deadly. In seeking it, you lose what is genuine. This is the prison we create for ourselves as we seek what we already have.”

“The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.”

“Peace doesn’t require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.”

There is so much to glean from these words of wisdom. Which ones did you find most inspirational?

Learn more about Byron Katie here.

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Personal Finance Roundup XVI https://positivitypost.com/personal-finance-roundup-xvi/ Mon, 10 Feb 2020 10:01:43 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15457 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/How can you make some extra cash on the side? Can you avoid taxes on your Social Security benefits? Find out the answers to these questions and many more in our latest personal finance roundup.

We hope you’ll find these articles on personal finance to be as helpful and illuminating as we have.

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The Incredible Value of Loyalty https://positivitypost.com/the-incredible-value-of-loyalty/ Mon, 03 Feb 2020 10:01:09 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15443 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/I have a friend who has taken advantage of me for many years. This friend calls me when it suits them and spends time with me when they have nothing else to do. You might be asking why I call this person “friend” at all. I asked myself this same question.

Relationships are complicated. When we first become friends with someone, obviously, something drew us together. We had things in common, we had a good time, we have similar views on the world, etc. Something clicks and we forge a friendship that hopefully, will last a lifetime. Alas though, sometimes we misjudge and this person we thought would be a lifelong friend, turns out to be someone that drifts in-and-out of our life. I heard a saying once that goes like this “Some people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.”

I guess this “friend” of mine was just for a season, because although we still talk occasionally, I realized that they were sort of using me, so I took a step back — of course, this friend is a bit oblivious, or perhaps, just can’t face up to their own insincerity?  I’m glad we met, glad we had quite a few good times together but, have accepted that the friendship is now more of an acquaintanceship because they just didn’t show me any loyalty — I was an after-thought and I sensed this ‘friend’ couldn’t maintain a true friendship.

I read a short store online that resonated with me and I’m glad to share it with our readers:

The King and the Servant: A Lesson in Loyalty

The late king had ten wild dogs. He used them to torture his servants who made a mistake. One of the servants gave an opinion which was wrong, and the king didn’t like it at all. So he ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs.

The servant said, “I served you for ten years, and you do this to me? Please give me ten days before throwing me to those dogs!” The king agreed.

In those ten days, the servant went to the guard who looks after the dogs and told him he would like to serve the dogs for the next ten days. The guard was baffled but agreed, and the servant started feeding the dogs, cleaning for them, bathing them, and providing all sorts of comfort for them.

When the ten days were over, the king ordered that the servant be thrown to the dogs for his punishment. When he was thrown in, we were all amazed to see the ravenous dogs only licking the feet of the servant!

The king, baffled at what he was seeing, said, “What has happened to my dogs?”

The servant replied, “I served the dogs for only ten days, and they didn’t forget my service. Yet I served you for a whole ten years and you forgot all, at my first mistake!” The king realized his mistake and ordered the servant to be set free.

This post is a message to all those who forget the good things a person did for them as soon as the person makes a mistake towards them. Don’t throw out the history that is filled with good because of one mistake that hurt you.

– Author unknown

Loyalty is vital to any relationship and it has to go both ways. When we forge a relationship with someone, whether it be a romantic one or just a platonic one, something drew us together and we must always focus on the things that first brought that bond to life. This ‘friend’ of mine that I spoke of is still a friend…of sorts, because we did share a lot of things in common and had some really good times. But for some reason, this person struggled to be a true, trusted and reliable friend. For this reason, we’re now just “kind of friends” and that’s okay. Loyalty goes both ways and in any relationship, we should be there for our friends and loved ones, just as we expect them to be there for us.

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You Can’t Judge a Book, or a Person, by the Cover https://positivitypost.com/you-cant-judge-a-book-or-a-person-by-the-cover/ Mon, 27 Jan 2020 10:01:20 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15428 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/At one time or another, we’ve all judged someone on looks alone. We’ve looked at a person and we made a knee-jerk decision about them. Even though we’re all guilty of having judged a book by its cover, it doesn’t make it any less deplorable.

An eye opening tale is making its way around social media and was recently sent to me. This story gave me pause to think and do some serious self-reflecting. Do I judge others? Am I a hypocrite? Do I make assumptions about people before even getting to know them? Without further ado, here is the tale that should give everyone who reads it the urge to do some soul searching:

A pastor transformed himself into a homeless person and went to the church that he was to be introduced as the head pastor at that morning. He walked around his soon to be church for 30 minutes while it was filling with people for service. Only 3 people said hello to him, most looked the other way. He asked people for change to buy food because he was hungry. Not one gave him anything.

He went into the sanctuary to sit down in the front of the church and was told by the ushers that he would need to get up and go sit n the back of the church. He said hello to people as they walked in but was greeted with cold stares and dirty looks from people looking down on him and judging him.

He sat in the back of the church and listened to the church announcements for the week. He listened as new visitors were welcomed into the church that morning but no one acknowledged that he was new. He watched people around him continue to look his way with stares that said you are not welcome here.

Then the elders of the church went to the podium to make the announcement. They said they were excited to introduce the new pastor of the church to the congregation. “We would like to introduce you to our new Pastor.” The congregation stood up and looked around clapping with joy and anticipation. The homeless man sitting in the back stood up and started walking down the aisle.

That’s when all the clapping stopped and the church was silent. With all eyes on him….he walked up the altar and reached for the microphone. He stood there for a moment and then recited so elegantly, a verse from the bible…..

“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’ “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for the least of my brothers and sisters, you did for me.’

After he recited this, he introduced himself as their new pastor and told the congregation what he had experienced that morning. Many began to cry and bow their heads in shame. “Today I see a gathering of people here but I do not see a church of Jesus. The world has enough people that look the other way. What the world needs is disciples of Jesus that can follow this teachings and live as he did. When will YOU decide to become disciples?”

He then dismissed service until the following Sunday as his sermon had been given.

Wow!

I wish I knew the name(s) of the Pastor and people who shared this narrative, because they deserve thanks. It doesn’t matter if you’re not of the Christian faith, because this tale has a message for all mankind: have compassion, be kind, be generous and, have a heart filled with love and understanding. Don’t judge others harshly, especially if you don’t know their story. After all, we don’t like to have others jump to conclusions about ourself, so why do it to another person?

For our Christian readers, of course, the message is even more profound, since the very center of our faith is Christ — and as we know, Christ is love, compassion, generosity and so much more.

I feel that this collection of quotes on judging others helps to bolster the message:

“We can never judge the lives of others because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.” — Paulo Coelho

“Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.” — Wayne Dyer

“Do not judge my story by the chapter you walked in on.” — Anonymous

“The happiest people I know are always evaluating and improving themselves. The unhappy people are usually evaluating and judging others.” — Anonymous

“Not judging people is the fastest way to peace.” — Jonathan Jackson

“There’s a story behind every person. There’s a reason why they’re the way they are. Think about that before you judge someone.” — Anonymous

“When you are spiritually connected, you are not looking for occasions to be offended, and you are not judging and labeling others. You are in a state of grace in which you know you are connected to God and thus free from the effects of anyone or anything external to yourself.” — Wayne Dyer

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How to Knock Out Stress https://positivitypost.com/how-to-knock-out-stress/ Mon, 20 Jan 2020 10:01:54 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15402 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Stress and anxiety zap our strength and seriously hamper happiness. Dealing with stress can be difficult, but it’s not impossible. And, dealing with it is absolutely essential for our peace of mind.

There are many ways to deal with stress and fortunately, the internet gives us almost countless resources to help. Some people use a combination of remedies, such as positive affirmations, prayer and mindfulness techniques to help combat the stress.

These affirmations, uplifting quotes and prayer will hopefully help you deal with stress — or, at least give you the strength to get beyond it enough so that you can pursue a personalized prescription for beating stress and anxiety.

Positive affirmations that may help:

  • I am safe. I am calm. I am secure.
  • Stress does not control me, I control my stress.
  • Stop! Relax. That negative thought is toxic and I banish it. I’m okay. Everything will be fine.
  • Take a deep breath and relax. Everything is going to be okay.
  • I feel peace and serenity flowing through my mind and body. I will be okay.
  • I am happy, relaxed and in control. I have the power to conquer my fears.
  • One step at a time. One day at a time. One thought at a time. Calm yourself.

With affirmations, it’s helpful to envision peace and tranquility. When repeating a positive affirmation, try doing so in a quiet, realxed place and visualize beautiful scenes, such as a lush green valley at dawn, a beach at sunset, a meadow of beautiful wild flowers, etc.

These quotes are inspirational and very wise:

“Within you, there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.” — Hermann Hesse

“Don’t try to force anything. Let life be a deep let-go. God opens millions of flowers every day without forcing their buds.” — Osho

“Drop the idea that you are Atlas carrying the world on your shoulders. The world would go on even without you. Don’t take yourself so seriously.”               — Norman Vincent Peale

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” — William James

“There’s a lot of stress out there, and to handle it, you just need to believe in yourself; always go back to the person that you know you are, and don’t let anybody tell you any different, because everyone’s special and everyone’s awesome.” — McKayla Maroney

“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.” —  Wayne Dyer

“The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence.” —  Norman Vincent Peale

“Stress is the trash of modern life—we all generate it but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.” — Danzae Pace

 Pray

Prayer, especially prayer said from the heart with complete sincerity, is extremely powerful. If you’re a person of faith, consider this prayer:

“Dear Lord, I’m so stressed and tired and I need your help. I ask that you forgive my sins and help to clear my mind of negative thoughts. Please be with me and help me to remember that through you, all things are possible. I humbly ask that you guide back on the path to strength and resiliency. In Christ’s name I pray. Amen.”

I’m a big believer in praying from the heart, so you may want to write/say your own. If you believe in prayer, rely on it to help get you passed the stress and anxiety that has crept in.

Bible passages

Many Christians read the Bible regularly and these passages can help deal with stress:

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke fits perfectly, and the burden I give you is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

“I am leaving you with a gift–peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give isn’t like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” John 14:27

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD GOD is an everlasting rock.” Isaiah 26:3–4

The best way to deal with stress may be to first acknowledge it. Mindfully acknowledge the stress and anxiety, analyze it and figure out how to best deal with it. Unfortunately, many people simply avoid tackling it and that allows it to fester. Confront it and if nothing helps, absolutely see a qualified professional to help get it under control.

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Learn to Think Differently https://positivitypost.com/learn-to-think-differently/ Mon, 13 Jan 2020 10:01:10 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15379 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Kindness is rarely, if ever, wasted. Too often, we take things and people for granted and this apathy, no matter how unintentional, can do great harm. “You never know what’s going on in someone’s life. You never know what’s really going on behind what they present.” – Hill Harper

We may get testy with someone in line at the grocery store or maybe we give a dirty look to someone who didn’t hold the elevator door for us. Perhaps your co-worker seems remote and distant and it bothers you, so you want to confront them? Whatever the scenario, sometimes people are struggling and there is something going on in their lives that causes them stress or sadness. Its easy to mistakenly get the wrong impression from people — we misread them and we quickly get offended. We’re all fallible after all, so jumping to conclusions or making snap judgements doesn’t necessarily make one a bad person — it may just make us insensitive…even if we’re not aware of that insensitivity.

That’s why leading with kindness is always best. Whenever we get impatient or annoyed with someone’s words or actions, we should be mindful that we don’t really know what’s going on in their life. The story “Learn to think differently,” does a good job in bring this point home:

Learn to think differently

 

The man doesn’t know that there is a snake underneath. The woman doesn’t know that there is a stone crushing the man. The woman thinks: “I am going to fall! And I can’t climb because the snake is going to bite me! Why can’t the man use a little more strength and pull me up!” The man thinks: “I am in so much pain! Yet I’m still pulling you as much as I can! Why don’t you try and climb a little harder!?”

 

The moral is— you can’t see the pressure the other person is under, and the other person can’t see the pain you’re in. This is life, whether it’s with work, family, feelings or friends, we should try to understand each other. Learn to think differently, perhaps more clearly and communicate better. A little thought and patience goes a long way.

Be kind to people. Everyone we meet is fighting their own battle.

– Author unknown

Having a heart and mind centered on kindness and compassion is a very good thing. When we’re tempted to snap at someone or assume their words or actions are meant to be overtly confrontational, we should pause, take a breath, not take it personally and, remember that perhaps, they’re really doing the very best they can.

“The sad thing is, nobody ever really knows how much anyone else is hurting. We could be standing next to somebody who is completely broken and we wouldn’t even know it.” — Unknown

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Incredible Human and Animal Friendships https://positivitypost.com/incredible-human-and-animal-friendships/ Mon, 06 Jan 2020 10:01:48 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15121 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Animals are incredible! Fortunately, more people are coming to realize that animals and all nature deserve our respect and, protection. People are also taking notice of how incredibly special the human/animal bond can be.

A friend sent me this video and I love it. The video shows some beautiful human and animal friendships and I hope you enjoy it as mush as I have:

I hope that 2020 is the year that even more people commit to protecting wildlife and our planet. The earth is home for all of us, so we humans would do well to remember that.

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This Year, Resolve to Be Happy https://positivitypost.com/this-year-resolve-to-be-happy/ Mon, 30 Dec 2019 10:01:11 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=15342 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/Here’s a little secret: Happy people aren’t born that way — they’re happy by choice. This new year, rather than the usual resolutions, why not just make one: to be happy. To quote Abraham Lincoln “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Truly happy people are very fortunate because they realize that once we stop pursuing the world’s (often false) ideal of “happiness,” the key to a joy and contentment has been right in our grasp the whole time. It is that epiphany which enables them to make the choice to simply be happy.

As the new year dawns, instead of the usual resolutions, maybe we should all resolve to just let our inner happiness shine through. Here are some useful tips on how we can all choose happiness this new year:

1).  Make Happiness an Actual Goal

If you don’t have a list of life goals, make one and be sure to put “being happy” at the top. What will make you happy? Don’t focus on things that you think will make you happy, but on the actual elements you need in your life to have happiness. For example, make it a goal to reprogram your beliefs and values so that they’re oriented on the truly important things in life. Try to learn positive self-management habits that help you to organize your life and to keep you on the path toward a fulfilling life. Make it a priority to be around people and environments that are uplifting and help to inspire you. That goal list? It’s very important. Make time to journal or list out the changes you need to make to bring out the happiness within you…because happiness is within all of us, but too often, we fail to actively choose happiness.

2).  Focus on and Treasure Positive Moments

Life isn’t all fun and good times. Real life can be rough and if we let that part of life take root, it’s hard to let our inner happiness emerge. Our brains tend to be on the lookout for the negative and that misdirected focus causes us to miss the positive. Rather than honing in on the negative, look for the positive! Find it and savor it and let that positive moment/experience be the one that propels you forward. Remember it and let them fill your mind little by little — cumulatively, you’ll see that there are lots of things to be happy about.

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” – Frederick Keonig

3).  Practice Gratitude and Compassion

For me, gratitude and compassion go hand-in-hand. This new year, commit to being a kind person who is grateful. Be thankful for what you have and share that gratitude by helping others. The spirit of thanking and giving is extremely powerful and once we start to be thankful, we become more grounded and content in life. Once we have and, more importantly, show compassion for others, it spreads out like a warm blanket of peace and love. Sound corny? It’s not. Its actually one of the biggest contributors of personal happiness that exists.

“Be mindful. Be grateful. Be positive. Be true. Be kind.” Roy T. Bennett

4).  Choose Mindfulness

Ever notice that when we feel worn down and bummed out, we automatically harken back to a time gone by…“oh, my life was so much better then….”  Was it? Once we’re done strolling down memory lane, we fast-forward to the future and begin dwelling on things that haven’t even happened yet. When we recognize this happening, we need to snap back into the moment and try to be in the now — its normal to reflect on the past and think about the future, but being happy is supposed to be in the now.  Practice some mindfulness techniques to help stay more in the present and enjoy life today.

“Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.” Mother Teresa

“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.” ― Marcel Pagnol

5).  Allow Yourself be Happy

If we think we don’t deserve to be happy, we’re wrong. We all have a right to enjoy life — to savor the good things and to be content and fulfilled. If you find that you have negative thoughts that you don’t deserve to be happy, get to the bottom of those bad thoughts. It may mean talking to a qualified professional, but that’s okay. The bottom line is: we all deserve to be happy and we have to actually allow ourselves to be so…to let our inner happiness emerge and guide us.

Feeling happy and being happy aren’t the same thing. Sure, when we get something we want, we have a feeling of being happy. But being happy from within is when we feel at peace and have a sense of fulfillment — its when we look at life and say “Yes, things are good! I’m doing great and I like who  and where I am….” It takes effort, but its not as hard as some might have you believe. So this new year, choose happiness.

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as you see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” ― Stacey Charter

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We Have a Choice Everyday https://positivitypost.com/we-have-a-choice-everyday/ Mon, 23 Dec 2019 10:01:11 +0000 https://positivitypost.com/?p=14967 https://www.facebook.com/Positivity-Post-850385048367345/You’ve have heard the expression, “It’s not what happens that matters but how you react to it that matters.” That may not always be the case, but it does give one pause to think. As we approach a new year, there’s no better time to think about our attitude toward life.

“The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.” – Charles R. Swindoll

People today are facing an incredible amount of pressure and stress. Yes, much of that stress and pressure is self-induced, but that’s only because we’re prone to let the world around us get us down — we’re letting the negative aspects of our world win, but we don’t have to.

No one makes us watch too much television. No one is forcing us to become obsessed with political dysfunction. There is no rule that says we have to waste precious hours on social media sites. That smartphone?  Its really not so smart, is it? It’s also not necessary to have it in our hands 24×7. Where is it written that we have to schedule out every single minute of our day?

So yes, life can be a challenge, but we have within us the power to confront the bad elements of life and send them packing. We have the ability to change our perception of life and we have the capability to craft the type of life we really want for ourselves.

Consider this wise insight from Steven Aitchison:

“Reality is based on your perception of the truth.

Think about that statement for a bit, it will blow your mind, and blow the lid of what you perceive to be real and what is an illusion.

You are here to live YOUR life, YOUR way and on YOUR terms, not for the people you work for, not the people in the media, and not to live in the little box that society may have placed you in.

You are a unique individual, with talents, with drive, with passion, with ambition, with love, with laughter, with a soul that could melt the hardest of hearts, and with a mind as creative as Da Vinci.

You chose this life for a reason, and it certainly wasn’t to live a reality created by others. Is this the time to stand up, and say I can live my own reality, create what I want for my own life, have the things I want in life without guilt, knowing that you deserve anything you want and are prepared to put the time and effort into getting?

What if there was a way to bend your reality, a way to use your mind consciously to get what YOU want in life, become wealthy, feel comfortable in your own skin, meet the perfect man or woman, become more spontaneous, feel free, love, be open, be honest, be heartfelt, be grateful, be the one, love life, live, feel it, breathe it…. Welcome to Mind Alchemy Is this the time to Bend Your Reality?”
Steven Aitchison

This is an interesting concept, albeit not a new one. My take away from his words is this: If you know what you want and need your life to be, don’t let society or others dictate it to you and that within you is the power to bring that dream into reality.  My other take on it is that we should re-shape our minds to focus on the positive…to self-motivate by embracing the good and the possible. Our attitude shapes our mind, which in turn creates our reality. Think negatively and for sure, life will be negative. However, think positively and life will be brighter and more fulfilling.

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”   – Lao Tzu

During this holiday season, we would all benefit from some soul-searching and re-prioritizing. We may find that the things we think are of importance and value, really aren’t. In doing so, we will probably find that the simplest of life’s pleasures are the most rewarding. And, I’m confident that we will also realize that love, compassion, generosity, gratitude and positivity are among the most valuable things we can aspire to have.

“The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.” – Norman Vincent Peale

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