One of the greatest factors that affects success in life is often personal character. If you want to be more successful, take a long look at your personality – your demeanor, how you act, speak and treat other people. We get back what we put out and if you want acceptance, success and respect, you’ll have to give it and show it too. Here are some tips on how you can be a more likable, respected and successful person:
1. Be genuine
Know yourself – who you are and what you stand for. To be “real,” you must act and carry yourself as a down-to-earth person — someone who is without pretense, who doesn’t put on airs. Being “real” means you don’t try to impress people because you have inner strength and confidence and thus, have no need to.
Know your strength’s, as well as your short-comings. When you’re sincere and know who you are as a person, others will naturally find you to be trustworthy.
2. Be attentive and actively involved
Seek out and cultivate new relationships and show interest in other people; listen to them and demonstrate attentiveness to those around you. Avoid being self-absorbed by allowing others to share about themselves because we all like to be heard and have our words and feelings validated. If people sense you’re interested in them and what they have to say, they’ll open up to you and perceive you as confident, trustworthy and approachable.
Let relationships blossom with mutual respect so that they reach a level of shared interests and balanced interactions with each other.
3. Show modesty
Strive to be content and happy in your life; a calming peace and serenity evolves when we let go of anger, negativity and the need to always be the center of attention.
If you’re focused and committed to being the best you can be and you have confidence in your determination and abilities, there’s no need to be arrogant or ruthless — hard work, focus and self-awareness are your foundations. Remember that other people have helped to get you where are, so acknowledge this and show gratitude. When you show a willingness to share the stage and you’re not afraid to praise the strength’s and abilities of others, people will naturally want to return the favor.
4. Show acceptance
Be evolved and open-minded; avoid judging others, no matter how different they are. You may not like the lifestyle, choices or habits of others, but that is your personal right. Strive to avoid overly harsh judgments and criticisms, even if you know that you would never make those choices for yourself.
Focus on growing as a person and work to see that life can be more serene and rewarding if we learn to embrace differences, even if you don’t totally accept those differences. In reality, we should all be inspired that everyone is unique because it truly does make life more interesting.
By practicing tolerance and acceptance people will feel safe with you — they’ll feel you are a kind and understanding person who they can trust.
5. Be open
If you want people to trust and like you, then you too need to be open and willing to let people in. Being guarded hinders personal growth and deters trust.
If you’re attentive and genuine to others, then be the same for them — openness improves the odds of developing relationships that are balanced and long-lasting.
6. Show generosity
Generosity doesn’t always have to be money related. Being a giving and generous person can also mean that you show honest concern for people — for their thoughts, ideas, feelings and needs.
Once you see that determination, hard work, focus and self-awareness are your foundations, you can more readily help others because you’re strong and on a sure-footing; as people sense generosity and openness in you, they’ll be more comfortable asking you for guidance and direction.
7. Show empathy
Show empathy and compassion for others — strive to show understanding when others are struggling or having difficulty. While you may not be able to solve their problems, showing that you care and understand is just as important. Be an active listener and if you’re able to, give opinions, guidance or recommendations on resources that can assist them; they may need to solve their issues on their own, but at least you’re an empathetic person they can trust.
8. Live “positivity”
Being an optimist is vital, though not always easy. When you’re a positive person and you exude optimism, you become someone people want to be around. Endeavor to see the good in life and to make people feel good when ever you can — being an optimist will come as a result of you being confident and contended in yourself and your abilities.
Don’t dwell on negativity or be a “gloomy Gus” – if you’re able to, make “seeing the silver lining” a part of your nature…by radiating positivity, people will naturally gravitate to you.
9. Be calm
When you are self-confident and self-aware, you gain an inner strength. You’ll no longer need or want to engage with ego maniacs who are aggressive, loud or narcissistic.
Once you’re no longer engaging with those people on any significant level, you’ll no longer need to show those behavior or attributes yourself, because you will have evolved. Let go of the need to cater to egomaniacs who are always screaming “look at me!”
Focus your efforts on self-development and becoming soundly secure in who you are, what you have to offer and what you have and will accomplish in life. The people who matter will see this and recognize that you’ve grown as a person.
Welcome and embrace the quiet qualities of self-assuredness and dignity and people will naturally be drawn to you.
10. Do Onto Others
If you wouldn’t like something done to you or said to or about you, then don’t do that unto others. If you want respect, you must show respect. If you want people to like you and open up to you, then be prepared to do the same. We reap what we sow — make sure that what you sow will bloom into what you seek and desire in life.