We all need friends. We all want friends. Having friends is a blessing, because humans are social and interpersonal relationships are vital to our happiness. But how do we know who is a true friend and who is not?
Throughout life, people come and go in our circle, but sometimes, one, or even a few, remain with us throughout the years. These people are our core group — our true and dear friends who make us better people just for having them in our life.
Of course, not everyone will be a great friend or even a true friend, so some people will simply be “friends.” We love them, we appreciate them and want them, but ultimately, they’re not that one or two individuals who we call “besties.”
So how do we spot a good friend over an acquaintance? Here are a few key attributes of a good friend to look for:
• They celebrate your wins.
• They stay in touch with you, even when they’re busy.
• They support and encourage you.
• They say only good things behind your back.
• They are honest with you, but tactfully.
• They celebrate your successes, not fear them.
• They listen to you.
• They make you feel good about yourself.
• They meld in with family and get along with your loved ones.
• You want them around and feel good when they are.
So if these are some of the attributes of a good friend, what are the telltale indicators of someone who is, well…not so much of a trusted friend?
In essence, people who can’t be counted on to be loyal, life-long friends, do the opposite of the above. They may ignore you until it suits them, or perhaps they give you off-handed compliments, rather than coming right out and praising your achievement. A less then trusted friend might talk all about themself and never show much interest in you. I think most of us can sense who is and who is not a close, dear friend and that’s probably the best way to know.
But friendships should be positive and mutually beneficial and make us better people for those relationships.
